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It’s fine to be traditional. One thing to consider is that saying “with their families” is inclusive of both sides. Paying for the rehearsal dinner can be a pretty significant expense. Do you want to potentially offend your new in laws or create the perception that they aren’t as important because they didn’t give you as much? We approached our wedding with the mindset of including everyone and creating everyone in the family with respect.
This is a very helpful insight. Thanks for sharing this here, SC1.
What I would do is have your parents on the invitation and then have your fiancé’s parents on the rehearsal dinner invitation that’s what we did.
That’s traditional and fine.
I don’t like “together with their families” because I feel it’s rude towards my parents as it implies my fiancé’s parents are also paying for the wedding.
Maybe I’m totally overthinking this… but curious for input!
For my fiancé and I , regardless of the amount each side is putting up, everyone’s contributing something to make our wedding experience come to life. So on every invitation we’ve put “hosted by the Marshall & Vanison Family”. Our family’s have both agreed on that though bc we’ve all agreed to contribute to everything happening for the wedding - the engagement party, bridal shower, ect. Not an equal amount, just something and we as a couple pick up the rest. So technically, it is both families hosting no matter what it is for us.
You could definitely go the traditional route, bc your family truly is the side hosting the wedding for the most part. It makes more sense bc the cost really is divided. I guess you would just have to run it by the in laws, and explain why the invitation say what they do if they ask. I’m sure if maybe the rehearsal invites state that his family is hosting and the wedding invites state that your family is hosting, it would level things out a bit.
This may make you fiance's family feel unincluded, and they may not assume the lack of inclusion comes from being the side of the family that contributed the least money, would you want them to realize that's the reason on their own? I'm not sure what your culture is but I don't think you need to highlight family members in regards the money they contributed. It is your in-laws child's wedding too
Big etiquette nerd here… here you go:
Mr. and Mrs. [your parents]
Request the pleasure of your company at [honor of your presence at] (depending on if it is a religious ceremony)
The marriage of their daughter
[your first and middle name] (last name if it’s diff than your parents)
to
Mr. [first middle last]
Son of Mr. and Mrs. [his parents]
Yada yada yada time and location info
That’s assuming you and your fiancé do not want to be including on the hosting line
Go for it. I don't see anything wrong with it. We also do that here :)
How about you have your parents on the invitation? And then have your in-laws on the rehearsal invitation. That would be the best solution in my opinion.
Hmm. I get where you are coming from. My only concern is that the other party might feel less appreciated just because they contributed the least money.