Need advice please. An attorney has started courting me to hire her as outside counsel. We’ve been on a few lunches and really clicked. We live within 15 min of each other and have kids around the same age. While I don’t think I’ll get approval to hire her firm right now due to budgetary constraints, I would really love to be her friend and have play dates with the kids. I don’t want to be unprofessional or make it weird, esp if my company later decides we do have the budget.

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If she’s a normal person, she will be happy to have you as a friend, contact and future source of references or referrals even if you don’t give her business. So if you can’t hire her, just be candid and say that you’d love to maintain the relationship regardless. But I wouldn’t not give her business because you want to maintain the friendship. Guys do this all the time - women can navigate these things too. You’re both professionals.

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As a rainmaker, we all know you have to cast a lot of line. I have lots of friends who don’t retain me or retain me right now. It’s completely okay to maintain the relationship

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Agree with this. As long as you’re polite in setting expectations (“I don’t see that happening right now.”) it’s totally fine to be her actual friend. I think this is true for lots of lawyers.

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If she’s paying for lunches and stuff, then I would just be up front with that, like I’d love to hire you but don’t have that opportunity right now.

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