My girlfriend is willing to break off our entire relationship because she found out my mom doesn't approve of her. We have no issues between each other but she said she can't be with someone who's family doesn't like her.

What’s the strategy for planning to support aging parents? My mom has not a penny to her name but does live in a mortgage-free home. My siblings are worthless so it will be on me to support her.

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

Male 🐠, if you and a girl had a “situationship” but obviously had feelings for each other and it had to end for one reason or another, how often do you still think about the girl? Would she be on your mind as you try to move on?

Folks,
Have been married for 15 years and have a kid of 11 years. My spouse is falsely accusing me of domestic abuse and trying to get separated. We have had incompatibility even before marriage on various issues but it was an arranged marriage, we tried to work it out and stay together. Her side is asking her to move on. She has taken my kids passport and kept it with her. What are the options I have to defend myself?

Welcome all to parents in Consulting bowl, please post a little bit about yourself, number of kids and their ages!

Best way to deal with family members who treat you like the family therapist? Over thanksgiving my aunt disclosed some intense stuff to me and asked me for my help/opinion, and it was uncomfortable. I don't feel good saying just don't talk to me about stuff like that, but I also am not paid to give therapy to my own family and the things they tell me put me in weird situations with other family members. Help!

Has anyone successfully pursued a relationship with someone they met at work? An MD I am really attracted to has been chasing me, but I am nervous about what the repercussions could be if it doesn't work out. Still, it's tempting

Asking for a friend - anyone staying in a marriage just for the kid(s)?

It's not like the marriage is terrible or unhealthy, but they would take an out if not for having had the kids.

Anyone else experience this? I'm wondering how common this is.

Does anyone else struggle with their significant other not understanding the nature and demand of our work? We constantly fight about me staying late and blames it on poor time management.

Poll on general attitudes towards open relationships? I’m in one and find that some folks are totally non-judgmental about it, while others are so vicious/rude about it. Curious about your opinions! I understand that every open relationship is different, and each couple defines their own arrangement/rules. For context, ours is a passive one that’s hardly acted on, but we both have Grindr and meet guys for fun on the very odd occasion (whether together or apart). If you’re in one, describe yours!

How would you feel going on vacation with friends who want to bring their kid along too?

Boyfriend and I have been dating for ~1.5 years and we still only spend weekends together. I want to move in together at the 2 year mark but bf thinks it’s too soon... just feels our relationship is stagnant and not going anywhere. Any thoughts from ppl who’ve gone through similar situations?

Anyone else feeling pressure from Asian parents to find a significant other to get married and have kids?

Hard to make friends here - just moved to the city and found out all my friends here are in pair. Need friends to go out with

My mom turns 60 at the end of December. What would be a unique experience to get her (not stuff)? We want to spend around $1,000.

Anyone here want to be a friend can ping me..

I love watching my 3-year-old's engineering hacks... he wanted to pet the cat so he built a fort out of pillows and waited, now the cat's purring on his lap and they're both asleep

Am I being paid competitively? I have been the Onboarding Sup for my HR dept for over a year now and I’m being paid the state min for salary, which for CA is 62,400. I have not gotten a merit raise since the last 2 January’s, the state raises the threshold for salary folks. My company says that was my raise. Is this right? I bring a background from the clinical operations of my company, scheduling, field work, and what the average employee faces. I want to look else where but I’m not sure.

Any big law associates looking to transfer out of Texas in light of the new laws repressing women's rights? My firm has an office in Colorado and a group of 4-5 of us have been discussing transferring today. Rent/Housing is roughly the same in the two states.

Hey Fishes,

I am preparing for Google Cloud Engineer - AI role
I know there would be DS & Algo, Programming and ML Questions but
I was given a long list of topics to prepare by google - Web/Internet Technologies, Databases/SQL/NoSQL, Linux/Unix, Distributed Systems, System Design, Troubleshooting, Networking
Any suggestions on which topics to concentrate more on ,
any good resources that you can think of and any interview experiences would be very useful, Thanks in advance

*Input on Salary* I have two opportunities in hand.
1) EY GDS - Assurance Senior
2) BDO Rise - Assurance Senior

I am an ACCA affiliate with 2+ years of experience in Assurance. What can I expect in terms of compensation?

Thank you in advance.

BDO BDO RISE Private Limited EY

Hi Guys, Any idea on the hike % for 2021 EOY appraisal for respective rating??
And also any updates on when it will be communicated??

Do @ICICi have hybrid mode of work in TEchnology groups? Pls advise.

Hi fish - I have a referral for bcg - do I ask the colleague to send in the referral before or after submitting my application?

How is MBB Canada pay compared to US?

What is Bain’s I&D group like?

What are the best consulting firms for someone with a TS/SCI with FSP? Non staffing roles. I’d rather do strategy, transformation, tech integration, etc...

I had accepted Infosys offer letter over launchpad didnot join that time will infy blocklist me to join in future? @

Folks who managed to switch jobs in this economy, how did you get the job? Did a recruiter reach out to you ? Or did you go on sending out applications?

Hi fishes,
It's it possible to move from EY India to EY GDS?
What are your thoughts?

Thoughts on 3-page resume?
I come from a very varied background and can't fit it all on 1 page

What is the state of sci-fi? Is sci-fi moribund or are compelling stories still being made? What are the elements that make a strong sci-fi story?

Met a guy thru a mutual friends. Our first date was a day trip together. He couldnt come to a group event this week bc of work but I ended up to his house to hookup after (my idea). He hasnt texted me about meeting up this weekend...do you think i should text him? Getting feelings for him and worried i should back off before getting hurt.

Asking for a friend - anyone staying in a marriage just for the kid(s)?

It's not like the marriage is terrible or unhealthy, but they would take an out if not for having had the kids.

Anyone else experience this? I'm wondering how common this is.

Started talking to this guy through group a group telegram and one day he offered to pay for my lunch as I had helped him out with something. Since then he has been offering to pay for my dinners, salon visits, shopping etc and I have accepted 3-4 times. I am in a steady relationship and my boyfriend doesn’t know about this. The other guy just says he likes paying for my stuff and there’s no agenda. Is this a little weird?

Boyfriend and I have been dating for ~1.5 years and we still only spend weekends together. I want to move in together at the 2 year mark but bf thinks it’s too soon... just feels our relationship is stagnant and not going anywhere. Any thoughts from ppl who’ve gone through similar situations?

Why are relationships so difficult!!!

Did anyone hate wedding planning? I’m constantly considering cancelling the wedding cuz I honestly can’t believe how much drama it’s causing with all family members.......

Breakup etiquette- we broke up and I was supposed to go to his relatives’s wedding in a couple of weeks. I know the couple, not super well, but have hung out and texted individually as well. Should I let them know I won’t be attending and wish them well or don’t reach out to them?

Went on a short coffee date with a person who was nice, but I just don’t think we’re compatible. What’s a kind text I can send to explain, after they said we should see each other again?

My SO adds very little to our relationship. She has a dead end job. I cook. I work. I oversee finances. I plan trips. She doesn’t have a voice in the relationship. I’ve asked her to give her perspective but she always defaults to mine bc she thinks I’m smarter/worldly. She feels intimated by me and my social circle. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking for her. Anticipating her wants and needs and then adjusting my behavior to meet them. Which she appreciates but it’s frustrating 29M 27F

So something crazy happened to me last week. I was at the airport, and as usual on call after call. The check in line was going ridiculously slowly and at some point turned threw my hands up in frustration while looking around to find another place to check in. In doing so, I catch the eye of the behind me. He smiles and says something. I just sort of nod and carry on with my call. After that, he keeps trying to talk to me, eventually I got to the check, say bye and leave. At security… tbc

Is giving birth w/o the epidural really that crazy of a concept? People laugh at me when I say its very feasible...

My natural instinct is to assume rejection if I have conflict with a partner or don’t think my feelings are reciprocated. I’ll try to bring it up with them, but I’ll say “if you want to end this feel free” so it doesn’t hurt me (and they can say what they really mean instead of sugarcoating). Someone told me today that they just assume I’m not interested because I always seem to “run” but I’m not sure how to bring up problems/feelings otherwise. How do you approach these hard questions?

How to politely tell my partner stop spending too much time on playing video games? It was my false at first. I introduced Zelda breathe of the wild to her and now, she is hooked. She even played game when we had the movie night. I chose the her movie style but she let me to watch it alone and silently turned on the game, and played it while pretended to watch the movie with me. That’s not fun at all. What should I do? Any advice please?

Hi all,

What do you think is a bare minimum CTC required to sustain a good married life considering life in a metro city. I do earn about 15LPA. So how much should. I look for in a guy?

Had a second date planned for tonight, she text me this morning and has a high fever! Should I send a care package?

So I have been seeing a guy for 4 months. We have a pay disparity.. he earns less than I do (by quite a bit). He has mentioned a few times that he’s worried I’ll get bored of him when I know he can’t afford the same things I can. I think we are beginning to move past this, but now he’s starting to mention things like ‘I am really broke this month’, and last weekend he told me his mum has lost her job and he’ll have to probably pay her rent. I have a lot of sympathy for his situation … tbc

My bf has asked me to help him quit the ecigs and told me he’ll probably hide them from me but he wants me to take them. So I have for the past week. He really only keeps them in his pocket, 1 drawer

Need advice and help.

I have realized I grew up in a household where my dad did not treat my mom as an equal. He belittles her, is rude and convinced his way is the only way.

It is painful to say, but some of this shows up in me and in my relationship. I am starting to catch myself, and it to me seems to be more of a reaction than anythjng that is ever intentional.

Wondering if anyone has dealt with something similar, and any success in making changes besides therapy. Cont. in comments

Gift ideas for GF dad? We have been dating a year and a half, I get along with him super well. He is dealing with some medical complications so isn’t to active at the moment but loves cooking and golfing. He is one of those guys who already has everything he needs, and they are super wealthy so I feel bad getting him any clothing or accessories knowing it wouldn’t be as nice as the things he wears, although I know he doesn’t expect anything and would genuinely appreciate anything I got him

I went through my gf’s phone and found out she had a crush on my best friend when we first started dating (over a year ago). I suspected this at first but it hurts to have it confirmed and see her telling her friends about him. I’m not sure how I should feel since I went out of line to look through her phone.