Partially venting, and partially asking if this is worth sticking through: I am a junior associate. About a month ago, I made the move to a larger firm. Since day 1, one of the partners has constantly put me on the spot, quizzing me every time he calls, which gave me a lot of anxiety, but I was dealing with it. Up until recently, the same thing happened, and he yelled at me, screamed that he was pissed off, when I didn’t know the answer to one of his questions. Now he doesn’t delegate any work..

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...to me. Is he being petty? I don’t understand how I got him this angry. I’m a junior and there is a steep learning curve with the field I’m in. Does this sound like a toxic environment?

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Yes. Good leaders don’t act like that. Abusive and toxic people do.

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Oh geez. I saw in another comment that you’ve only been practicing for about a year. Yes this is toxic. It wouldn’t be acceptable regardless of how long you’ve been out but it’s even more terrible that you’re a first year. So sorry to hear this. What area do you live in? Feel free to dm me if you don’t want to post publicly. If I know of any open positions, I’ll definitely pass them along!

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That is so very kind of you! I’m in the NYC area doing trusts and estates currently.

Yes OP. I’m so sorry. It seems you are better off avoiding him. Try to work with someone else and if you cannot, it’s worth considering your options.

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I’m sorry, OP. This is not normal, and it’s not your fault. Do not work for this partner if you can avoid him. Working for someone like this will absolutely destroy your professional self esteem and eventually erode your motivation to practice law or be in this profession.

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Do not let this one windbag ruin your whole career. He’s a scumbag. Brush yo shoulders off.

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Learn as much as possible. Bill like crazy. Make sure you look competitive on paper. Start looking. Contact your network. Jump when you can

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Yelling that he’s pissed off at you is never acceptable. If there are other partners who are willing to give you work to where you can hit your billable goal, then be glad he isn’t delegating anything to you anymore.

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A- Is there another partner you can work with? B - How many years out are you?

Partners can be the absolute worst about gauging appropriate expectations and providing needed training. This one sounds awful.

To be clear, this guy sounds like he absolutely crossed the line. People should never yell.

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Is he asking about your work product or grilling you on substantive issues? Screaming is unacceptable either way, but I could see someone being frustrated (within reason) if you couldn’t provide an explanation for materials over which you have ownership because it shows you didn’t give it any thought.

Omg I had a boss do this to me when I was a law clerk. Worst boss I ever had. It was demeaning and totally hurt my confidence. She’s the reason I didn’t work there post grad. My current boss doesn’t do this to me, but I can’t say I wasn’t traumatized/effected by the quizzing/constant ups and downs with her. What can help is remembering it’s not normal behavior, maybe try to compartmentalize it and try your best to work with other partners if possible.

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This is so crazy

Is he the only partner you can work with? He probably already has a reputation which is why he is working with a new associate. I suggest you try to find a way to distance yourself from him (by immersing yourself with deals with other seniors) so that you don’t need to deal with the abuse. So sorry you’re going through this, OP!

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