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Nononono.
Just do what you can and it’ll be fine. Boss is taking time now bc they are going to be short handed. Just keep the balls in the air and don’t stress about moving them forward. Be an average employee.
If boss isn’t hearing you on slowing down they are not going to get any better when you have a vague note. And it is vague unless it says you have to take time off, and then that’s PTO you don’t want to use. (A doc isn’t going to write that you can only manage your workload and not cover and have to log off by 6...they might just say that, at your discretion, you may need time off. And that’s not even a note, it’s just PTO.
The game of working when you have small kids is the game of knowing how much you can do and when. Right now you can only mail it in. So do that. Never admit it, but do it. Tired today? Log off and take a nap. Pick up again later. Need to walk to ease sciatica? Do it
And put OOO note for an hour. Don’t make a thing of it, just do it. And keep doing it when you have preschool interviews and sick kids and orthodontist appointments. Memorize this phrase: “I’m out of the office x-x tomorrow, I’ll check in when I get back/send you that thing before I go!” Nothing more, nothing less. (And when you get more senior you just block your calendar and go do what you need to do.
This! ^Never say what you’re doing or where you’re going. People judge: achild’s dr appt is ok, a trip to the vet is not. Or, a child’s dr appt means she’s a ‘mom’ first and we shouldn’t promote her. Nobody’s business. Give only the info you need. No more. No less.
And be mediocre. It’s not in my DNA (I’m so damn type A) , but I did bc I was out of gas by the end. It was fine to just be good enough. If shit didn’t happen by Eod, it would happen eventually. Most things don’t matter that much.
Good luck!
3 kids. Twins born when older one was 25 months. EP, on the road a lot, bedrest for 8 weeks at the end, but the best boss in the world. PM me if you need a ear.
I couldn’t agree more, just keep doing what you can, which won’t be everything! And make sure you take time for yourself and don’t let yourself get to a point where you’re overly stressed or tired, because just wait till baby arrives, this ain’t nothing! Take an hour or hell take a day, sign off, rest and back at it the next day. Also delegate, make a list and just get through it one day at a time, whatever is left on the list once you head out, is not your concern. Then I always encourage first time mamas to not expect to come back at same capacity as you left, set your work life parameters up right away when you returns, because no one is gonna set those up for you. You got this!
Thank you! Always tough to come to grips with not being able to do anything at your typical capacity, so I appreciate this encouragement so much. You’re so right, it’s important to create space for myself now, so that as my situation evolves after mat leave my boundaries are clear. You moms are the best- can’t wait to join this club in an official capacity 😃
Perhaps you could get a doctor's note or something that says you need to slow down/limit to 40 hrs week? Then send it to both your supervisor and HR.
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No advice but just wanted to say I’m due in about 5 weeks too! I’m starting to get tired as well. Best of luck on the last stretch - Sending you virtual air hugs ♥️
Ah, congrats to you! I hope you’re feeling well and getting through this final exciting stretch too. What a ride to have gotten pregnant right before the world changed so drastically. Pandemic pregnancy is not for the weak 💕
I feel for you! Don’t be so hard on yourself. I totally agree with the advice of the women above! Carve out time for you, that growing human, and above all, your physical and mental health. Sometimes you don’t even HAVE to leave that OOO for an hour message. Just don’t respond immediately to everything. It’s ok. You know what is an emergency and what is not. Try not to let other people’s insecurities and lack of preparation and lack of a life create additional fires for you. You are a producer, make producing sanity and boundaries a priority for yourself.
Also, this is all much easier for me to say at this point in my career and after two kids. But, this is advertising, and production, even now- it is still supposed to be fun.
See if some of your post-production sisters/vendors/friends can also help ease some of the burden on you as well! Some of my best friends in the industry are women I worked with who were ‘vendors’ that really get how crazy demanding people can be; they may be able to help with triage on some of the craziness.
I wish you the best of luck!!
I’m in a similar boat at 30 weeks and am completely exhausted. I’ve started blocking my calendar for dr appointments and afternoon naps (I have horrible insomnia so usually only get five hours of sleep and hit a wall at 2pm). If someone books over my calendar block, I tell them I’m not available. No details, I just have something else. I’ve been working weekends too and do the same thing— not available between x hour and x hour. Nobody has asked questions and it took me a long time to stop feeling guilty.