Soooo those of you who date multiple men.
Can you please share some tips that have helped you do it successfully to help you choose the right person, please?

I'm struggling with having enough time to date 3-4 guys. Also, being physically attracted to them all 😍 but not being intimate

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Wow what a blessing finding at least 3 suitors in this day and age 😂

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Really??? Where do you live? How do you meet, guys? I'm a warm person, so I am usually approached if I'm out and about. When they come... they come in droves

Accelerate the conversation to identify dealbreakers asap.

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That's so good

Narrow them down with their pros & cons I’ve did the same

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1. Are you clear on what you want at this stage? Do you understand your own non negotiables? What values are THE MOST important to you?

2. Amongst the suitors, who meets the above? Focus on your values and not only physical attraction.

3. Narrow down to 2

4. The guy who is direct his time and attention is the one you choose. You won’t even have to guess

5. If neither want to commit and you’re seeking commitment, drop both, also stop all communication and engagement

In general while dating more than one person avoid super long phone convos ( more than 30 minutes), don’t become their shrink or therapist, and see if they’re the one to suggest dates and ask you out, don’t put in a ton of emotional effort with all of them.

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You are most welcome 🙏🏾

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Be sure to vet them by asking questions to better assess their character. It is easy to get distracted by the surface but if we as women ask enough substantial questions regarding a man's purpose, their upbringing, mistakes that they have previously made along with what they learned from it, etc... men will usually tell us their intentions lol. Plus, it will save you a ton of time without going down a rabbit hole of getting too intimate because either you will leave them or they will break things off due to mutual misalignment of wants/needs... especially if they are immature , have ill intentions and/or lack Emotional Intelligence. If you are looking for the right one, listening and asking questions will definitely work in your favor in this instance. Men always tells on themselves or show their colors through actions. It will weed out who is lukewarm vs who has the potential to be serious beyond physical attraction.

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I put names and details in my contact and notepad about them to keep track of who they are. It’s totally doable, just politely ask to stay friends or exit the dating phase if you’re leaning more towards another and get to an exclusive stage with one.

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