Went on a short coffee date with a person who was nice, but I just don’t think we’re compatible. What’s a kind text I can send to explain, after they said we should see each other again?

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Just that.
Thank you for meeting with me. I appreciate your time but I just don’t think we’re compatible.

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Yeah exactly^ short and simple and polite is perfectly fine. No reason to make it more than it needs to be

For context: im usually good about sending a clear cut “hey I don’t see this going further” message, but the person was VISIBLY nervous on our date. Like choked up nervous.

I would hate to be nervous for a date, put myself out there a second time and send a “I think we should do this again”… just to receive a dry-cut “I don’t think this will work” message. I guess I’m asking about how to be gentle with this message.

Honestly sounds like they have extreme social anxiety. I usually text different than I speak in person when I go on dates if I don't feel a connection. It's a problem if they only mention looks though...I would just tell them, "it was nice to meet you, but I didn't feel a connection. Best of luck in your search!"

I responded lol. All good 👍

But did they?

Yes lol. All good. 🤞

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