Wedding help - I was invited to a wedding of two second generation Asian-Americans. They registered for gifts and I selected two items (that go together) for about $250. The wedding is tonight and I understand it will be considered rude if I don’t also show up with a red envelope of cash. But it seems more rude to only put a nominal amount of money in there, but I’m not keen on dropping even more money after I selected two of the higher-end items on their registry. Suggestions?

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Being Asian American , in no way did I expect double gifting at my wedding. I think what you are doing is overkill lol. They won’t even see you putting the red envelope into the box.
Anyway. If you still do it, then let me invite you to my renewal of vows as well 😛

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Normally people put their name on the red envelope so they will surely see it.

Asian here. No need to drop an envelope if you have registered for gifts.

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I’m Asian and about to have my own wedding celebration. It is customary to give cash in a red envelope but it’s not expected, especially if you’re not Asian. Not sure if you are planning to bring the gifts to the wedding or if it’ll be mailed to the couple. Either way, another nice gesture is to provide a card in a red envelope. If the gifts are coming by mail, you can mention it in the card so the couple knows to expect it. Regardless, they will be happy that you’re there to celebrate with them.

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Doesn’t sound like they’re close family friends. So it should be either/or. You don’t need to bring a red envelope.

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Note that I don’t expect it to be an ultra expensive wedding (evite, remote venue, etc.) but it will be fancy dress.

Partners actually attend weddings? Amazing!

Thanks, all! Makes me feel better

You are worrying too much... gift is enough. In my honest opinion, if I invited you to my wedding, your presence is more than enough... you took time off your day for me #grateful! 🙌🏼

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