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I’ve only been in 1 wedding and it was my cousins a few months ago (I’m early 20’s) and she has been in like 20 weddings and said that gifts are the worst idea. She said no one ever uses them, and that everyone always appreciates covering the necessary costs so much more (she also paid for hair & makeup for everyone) but if you’re deciding between gifts or dresses, 100% do the dresses. If they’re stressing about costs, you’re taking one extra thing away from them. Vs getting them something that they may not use / may not be their style. Just my two cents
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Same boat here. I sent gift cards for azazie for all their dress costs. And sent them $75 gift cards for shoes @ Sam Edelman. I plan to pay for a nice dinner at the bachelorette as well. I only have 4 bridesmaids though.
I would definitely cover their dresses. Thats a much nicer option and will help them to save money, making their attendance at your wedding less of a financial burden for them.
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I don’t think you are obligated to cover anything, but I would do the dress or the hotel room. You could also do a nice necklace for them to wear at the wedding and that’s classic so they could wear it again.
I have so many little trinkets and stuff from being in weddings that I never use, so don’t do any personalized little gifts. Those are a waste.
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That’s fair. I got a really simple gold necklace for a wedding I was in that I like a lot, but it’s probably not everyone’s taste.
I think weddings are already expensive. It would depend on a case by case.
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if you are asking them to wear specific dresses and covering them is feasible for you, i would do that. gifts are nice in theory but it’s often stuff people don’t really want or need. if you cover their dresses and the hair and makeup their expenses are no more than any other guest, which i think will be appreciated
Don't buy gifts unless you KNOW they will use them again. I know people say buy them a necklace/earrings/bracelet bc they'll wear it again but that isn't always true. I was gifted earrings and they were really crappy quality, I lost them right after the wedding and tbh didn't care that they were gone. For background all of my jewelry is solid gold and that's all I wear, I won't wear anything else..especially if it's silver. Among the other gifts I was given, I lost all of them and/or threw them away when they taking up space in my closet.
And after spending 2k on my friend's wedding, the gifts didn't help. I felt cheaped out on because I knew she couldn't afford much else (her wedding was paid for in loans) but I was still required to spend so much for her wedding
I'd say paying for their dresses. It would be better if they can wear those dresses again on other occasions. Hope this helps.