Do you think marriage is necessary? Why do we need the law to regulate the relationship? Isn't being committed emotionally enough? Would like to get different perspectives from both women and men.

Question for the married 🐠- Have you ever gone to couples therapy? If so, how did it work out for you? Did it help and do you now live your life happily ever after? Or did it just delay the inevitable and you are no longer in a relationship with your significant other? I’ve seen so many people go to therapy only to end up breaking up shortly afterwards and dropping some serious $$$

Currently have a 5th grade girl who is struggling with classroom behaviors and choices. When questioned, she says she wants to be a boy, but her parents won’t allow it. Obviously, she is struggling with more than making good choices at school. Her parents are very kind and appreciative of all we do for their child, but they are also clearly struggling with this. Anyone ever been in a similar situation or have some advice on how we can best support the student?

How old were you when you first took a blue pill/viagra? Currently 26 and a buddy doesn’t stop raving about it, tempted but feels too young to try?

#NTA #Sugesstion

Should you get married to a girl who ask you to relocate after marriage and tells you to divide all household work like a roommate. Also reluctant to cooking.

It’s a arrange marriage, girl wants to do job at Gurugram only and want to relocate to it. I am currently living in Delhi with my family and my job location is Noida.

Boyfriend has seemed to be dropping a ton on me lately, even after I got bad news that my company is t doing so hot this week and layoffs are approaching. First it was that we may be moving to another state for his job, then it was that his brother may need to move in with us for a few months after he graduates

It’s just a bit overwhelming at this time and I’m not sure how to communicate through all of this being thrown at me. 3 yrs together and we were friends for many years before that.

If at all, how do you guys manage romantic relationships in IB? It’s easier if your s/o is in the industry bc they have an innate understanding someone outside wouldn’t but I don’t think that means you have to find someone in the industry. Curious to hear some thoughts.

I’ve had to step away from social media for my own mental sanity as I have a major issue with comparing myself to peers when it comes to life stages. (Single female, 34, never married, no male prospects, dog mom.) As a result, I feel like I’m doing a disservice to myself professionally as social media is a HUGE communication channel. Any advice on staying away or including it in my life in healthy ways?

How often do you and your SO text/talk during the days you’re not together? My bf has a pretty busy job so we don’t really communicate during the day, but when it gets to be like 8pm and I haven’t heard from him at all it bothers me. Is that wrong? And how would you communicate to them that you want a bit more check-in/form of communication without coming off as needy

An old uncle sit next to me in office and always pass gas.
How to deal?

Boyfriend and I have been dating for ~1.5 years and we still only spend weekends together. I want to move in together at the 2 year mark but bf thinks it’s too soon... just feels our relationship is stagnant and not going anywhere. Any thoughts from ppl who’ve gone through similar situations?

I was okay and then randomly saw photos of my ex that i didnt know existed in my message history to my friend (i deleted everything related to him the day we broke up) and it has brought back all the memories and pain. It has already been over two months. I hope this can go away.

How personal is too personal for a SOP. I want to talk about how my aunts postpartum depression and consequent suicide shaped my career aspirations. Is that too personal/ would that be inappropriate to share?

Does anyone ever question the possibility of going to law school?

I’m a 23yo female legal assistant working/living in Canada. I am completing my BA in hopes of continuing with law school after. But, I just turned 23 and I’m anxious about my love life and starting a family. I haven’t had a boyfriend since 2019 and I’ve poured my heart and soul into my education & career.

I’ve always wanted to go to law school since age 14. But I also want a husband/kids. I don’t feel like I can have both.

Hi i lost majority of my money in the stock market. I married and promised my family that I will not make the mistake I made 7 years ago. Gambling. Is this an addiction I have. I keep selling stocks and taking loses buying other stock hoping it will recover but never did and sell again taking loses and buy again. It now sink in to me. I borrow personal loan hoping that the market will do k and I pay it back but I even lost that. I can't stop crying that I hurt the one I love the most my family.

Been living with my parents for a year to save money. We Get along well and have few issues. However I feel like I am not enjoying my 20s because I don’t want to put my parents at risk (I am responsible with covid, barely go out). Do you think it is worth it to move out and pay rent even though things are not normal anymore or should I just stay and save and invest knowing things go back to normal soon?

How many people cook their food after midnight? My roommate has recently started doing this and it's annoying, since I go to bed around that time. Not sure if this is common practice among fellow humans, so seeking advice!

Really sucks that in this day and age religion still remains a deal breaking factor to potential relationships 😕

How do I deal with a parent who has become bitter and shrewd as they age? It’s exhausting and disheartening to be around because they used to be positive and happy. I’d like to help them be positive again but also want to give them space to feel how they feel. I just want them old version of my parent back 😞

Does anyone have feedback or recommendations on robo cleaners in India? Thinking is sending one to family. With lockdown mom getting tired of cleaning by herself.

Hello, I have an interview this week with Riot Games for an L&D specialist role. Anyone have any tips or work at Riot Games?

Hello fishes ,

My lwd is just one week away and I have offers from,

1. Amadeus
2. Microfocus
3. Sapiens

Offers are almost same around 28L and YOE is 7.10. Could you please suggest which one is better based on WLB and job security?

Thank you

What do you want to do when you reach FI?

Does BOA provide welcome kit to new joiners?
If yes, what's that?

Do infosys still ask for 60% throughout academy for experience people as well?

What's the biggest life lesson joining the military taught you?

Where can we check legitimate cutoff for Canada express entry PR?
How often do the results come out? is it every month?
After submitting your profile in how many days can one expect to get Invitation?

Will The Global Warming Hysterics Never Tire Of Being Wrong?

My two year anniversary of starting my career (in general) is coming up in the next 3 weeks.

Aug 2020- 65k base salary
Jan 2022- 80k base salary
July/Aug 2022- 110k base salary


Just posting as a reminder to LEAVE that job (within a reasonable time 😂) and go where the money is!

(p.s. I already know some of you have had higher increases in the same amount of time & I consider 6 months minimum is “within a reasonable time”)

Hi guys,

What is average yearly increment in Persistent?

I have total 7 plus years of experience in IT industry. In that 3 years as developer and rest as Business Analyst. Nowy current profile is BA. My current CTC is 11 lpa. How much should I ask for next switch?

What do you think are the chances this thing actually goes through? As of today they're still blocking it. It's paused which is fine, but if they don't actually forgive them after February I'll be pissed.

I have a 25K loan from my MBA. I paid off 100k whole, after graduation. 3 years ago, I moved my loan from federal to private ( SOFI) account. I recently lost my job. I have applied for unemployment, as the severance that I received will only cover for 2 months. Together my husband and I used to make less than 250k after tax. Now, with a loss of pay , we are going to make less. Do you think I will be eligible for Loan forgiveness?

Gained 25 lbs in Q. Now finally lost 26!!! 🙌🏼

Do we have access to learning platforms like Coursera and udemy or anything else? Or do we have an option for reimbursement?

What do you guys think, do recruiters share the real salary/range or are they sharing the low-end range for leverage? Or both?

And does being an internal or external recruiter influence how they approach salary transparency in the early screening/interview phase?

We have motion sensor lights in my office and the sensor is far from my desk. Consequently, if I'm on a long WebEx, the lights go out and it's embarrassing. The building won't change the sensor. Anyone find a solution for this (aside from standing up and moving, which would be very awkward)? I can't rearrange my office.

For those of you in your mid-20’s, how often do you go on dates with your significant other? In a serious relationship for the first time since college and trying to gauge what folks consider normal for dating frequency (excluding nights in). Context - we’re 25, dating for 3 months, live 5 mins away from each other, decent WLB

My marriage is beyond repair I think. Husband just said we keep having the same conversations over and over in the past year about things we’ve been trying to fix. Is a year enough time? 11 years together for reference. And I don’t think his statement is true - he literally mentioned one of those things last week that he was happy about. I just can’t do it with these vague statements in arguments.

Do you think you and your significant other should have similar personalities? My significant other and I are doing long distance and I feel like when I FaceTime with him, I emote more and show interest by asking more questions but from his end, he doesn’t always have a reaction or just nods, and it makes me feel like he’s uninterested. On his end he sees it as he’s comfortable.

Men- if you text a girl you “like” but have never asked out on a date that you missed her and she responds “you could ask me out on a date”. How would you respond?

My relationship just ended yesterday because he wanted to “focus on myself and figure things out.” My relationship before that ended (~2 years ago) because he wanted to focus on himself. I can’t help but feel like it’s because something is wrong with me. What am I doing wrong?

Is giving birth w/o the epidural really that crazy of a concept? People laugh at me when I say its very feasible...

Is it irrational for me to get an “ick” for this?

I went on a “date” recently. I paid for the tab as they were going to the bathroom. As we were leaving they said “thanks for lunch” — I was hoping they’d at least ask to Venmo me half as a kind gesture. Following lunch we grabbed dessert. I was hoping they’d offer to cover dessert since I covered lunch but it didn’t happen.

I am fine w/ paying but I was hoping the gesture would at least be presented… am I crazy?

Any success stories out there of couples who come from different socioeconomic backgrounds? I’ve heard this difference (statistically) can be a huge barrier to success in a relationship. I’ll add more context in the comments if it helps.

I went through my gf’s phone and found out she had a crush on my best friend when we first started dating (over a year ago). I suspected this at first but it hurts to have it confirmed and see her telling her friends about him. I’m not sure how I should feel since I went out of line to look through her phone.

My date won’t share his playlist with me (I can listen to it but he won’t share it). Just curious, is playlist a big deal to guys? We are both at early 20s and only dated for a week

I deeply miss my ex. The breakup was initiated by me 5 years ago because I was scared to commit. Since then, I’ve gotten married and have a daughter. I’m so embarrassed to admit it but I think about my ex everyday. I am so sad that I walked away from him. Life is ok now - I’m thankful for my family but my heart hurts. How do I move on?

So much baggage brought into the relationship. 2 years in and just discovered a whole lot more. Its been mentally extremely difficult and it’s changed me as a person. Just venting but feel hopeless and I know my SO is suffering. Wish there was a solution but I’m losing hope

Been dating for a little over a year, but she hasn’t introduced me to her family yet. I don’t have any plans for thanksgiving this year, and she didn’t invite me to spend the holiday with her family (local). Is it still too early or is it a red flag?

Is there a polite/gentle way to talk to your boyfriend about the fact that he has gained a lot of weight in the past year and needs more physical activity in his life?

I am not a very shallow person — he was already on the heavier side when we met. But when I look at photos from just a year ago, it’s clear he’s put on a lot of weight. I am worried about his health. I don’t want to overstep or make him feel insecure. Just wondering if anyone else has ever been here.

My SO adds very little to our relationship. She has a dead end job. I cook. I work. I oversee finances. I plan trips. She doesn’t have a voice in the relationship. I’ve asked her to give her perspective but she always defaults to mine bc she thinks I’m smarter/worldly. She feels intimated by me and my social circle. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking for her. Anticipating her wants and needs and then adjusting my behavior to meet them. Which she appreciates but it’s frustrating 29M 27F

Unsure if my bf and I are incompatible or if I’m not compromising enough. How do you know the difference? He has so many great qualities that I love but also lacks some qualities that I would like to have but idk if I would be giving up on someone that is great for little things.

Longest dry spell? Single people only!

Haven’t done the dating thing in a while so need advice! (F here) Met a guy at a party on Sat, followed each other on insta, then I dm’ed him my number saying “lmk if you want to get drinks sometime”. He then texts me and says something along the lines of “yeah let’s do it” but doesn’t offer any concrete plan. Does this mean he’s not super into it? Or am I overreacting and I should initiate the plan? I initiated the insta follow and the dm so I feel like it’s his turn…?

My natural instinct is to assume rejection if I have conflict with a partner or don’t think my feelings are reciprocated. I’ll try to bring it up with them, but I’ll say “if you want to end this feel free” so it doesn’t hurt me (and they can say what they really mean instead of sugarcoating). Someone told me today that they just assume I’m not interested because I always seem to “run” but I’m not sure how to bring up problems/feelings otherwise. How do you approach these hard questions?

So something crazy happened to me last week. I was at the airport, and as usual on call after call. The check in line was going ridiculously slowly and at some point turned threw my hands up in frustration while looking around to find another place to check in. In doing so, I catch the eye of the behind me. He smiles and says something. I just sort of nod and carry on with my call. After that, he keeps trying to talk to me, eventually I got to the check, say bye and leave. At security… tbc