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Reach out tonight and acknowledge what tomorrow is. Let her know that you’re available to talk, watch a movie, etc, but you also understand she might want some space. Let her navigate, but check in with her throughout the day. Grand gestures can be overwhelming, especially the first year. A pint of her favorite ice cream or grabbing takeout from a place she likes is great. Perhaps avoid flowers and alcohol.
This is based on my own personal experience.
The fact that you’re reaching out and asking the question is very thoughtful.
Make her all three meals tomorrow, preferably comfort food
I think that just acknowledging it will help. Flowers? Offer to cook or get takeout?
Just listen / pay attention to what she wants and needs. If it seems like getting outside might help - go on a nice walk ! If she just needs to maybe wallow and be sad - wine and movie night ! Small things go along way - making her coffee when you make yours up, picking up around the apartment, and maybe making dinner for the two of you (comfort food as aforementioned)
Maybe dress up as her mom? Let her talk to you in character? Is that too weird?
Rising Star
I shouldn’t have laughed but I did
Chief
As everyone above has said, let her have the day off from chores. Make some food, tidy up after them. It’s only one day and it will mean a lot. Sit with them and listen to them if they start talking to you about it.
And definitely don’t push the conversation !! If she talks about it, she talks about it. Is she doesn’t, she doesn’t.
Chief
As a glass half-full kind of guy I like to remind people that they are one year closer to being reunited.
Chief
Noooo. Don’t do this.🤦🏻♀️
My husband thought your response was awesome.
Rising Star
Going to the park and doing something to memorialize. A close friend who lost her brother does release balloons every year (not environmentally friendly I know) but I’m sure there is another way to memorialize too. Maybe go out and plant flowers somewhere or deliver flowers to neighbors in her name