What’s a good word for this feeling? Empathetic towards someone’s else’s circumstances but also feeling bad because you can’t share your joy.

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This has legs

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Maturity

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Mindfulness.

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Hypothetical examples of this feeling.

1. You get pregnant but your sister has been struggling with IVF.
2. You close on a house, your sibling keeps getting offers rejected.

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Are these real examples? Share your joy with the crowd here!

Being respectful and considerate of others 🧐

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I think it's just Guilt. I love the maturity comment but it's important to share these good news. Just be mature enough to know the right time and place. But if the care for you then hearing about your news will also bring them a level of joy.

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Share your joy (with good timing). When it’s people in your life who genuinely love and respect you, they will be thrilled for you. Sure, they will be sad for themselves but we are capable of feeling conflicting feelings at the same time.

I told a friend I was pregnant after only a month of trying while she had been struggling. She was very happy for me, but still a little sad for her. She said she would have been more upset if I had hid my good news from her as that would have made her feel like a crappy friend.

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The feeling seems like a cousin to survivors guilt

It's a kind of guilt, basically

The feeling is guilt even though you are technically not objectively guilty of anything, ie, you haven't caused harm but people feel guilt in all kinds of situations

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