My wife is a great mother. She, however, is not very physically affectionate and always has a million excuses. I crave physical affection both in the bedroom and in general. I’ve communicated this many times and nothing has changed. It’s driving me nuts and making me feel completely unwanted. I work hard for our family and try to do things around the house as well but often work many more hours overall. Not really sure the point of writing all this out, I just hate it.

Hi, does anyone know when an employee becomes eligible for maternity/paternity leave at either Gilead, BMS, or Merck? For NVS, it’s day 1 of employment but not sure if that’s common within the industry.

Did anyone disappoint their parent(s) when deciding to work in advertising?

Boyfriend and I have been dating for ~1.5 years and we still only spend weekends together. I want to move in together at the 2 year mark but bf thinks it’s too soon... just feels our relationship is stagnant and not going anywhere. Any thoughts from ppl who’ve gone through similar situations?

I need friends 🥺

Has anyone else had fears of marrying the wrong person or making a mistake? Like you are mostly sure, but still get nervous?

How much parental leave does your company offer to employees? Please include location, size of company and type of business. We are a SaaS company in NYC with 60 employees. We give 16 weeks paid for “primary caregivers “ and 6 weeks for “secondary “ caregivers. I want to advocate for everyone to get at least 12 weeks.

Hi fishes,
Want some feedback for Employees Assistant Program (EAP) by Capgemini which provides facilities to connect with Therapist.
Actually I am going through some tough times(going through a divorce), want to connect to EAP to discuss my mental health issues.
I had connected once and they say that the conversations are strictly confidential.
Just wanted to know do they really keeps stuff confidential or can they inform my Manager regarding the personal conversations.

What are we supposed to do with our kids during Winter break when school is closed for TWO WEEKS and we need to hit our billables?

How much stock do you put on benefits? I have two offers with stark differences in benefits. Job 1: role I want, but benefit sucks (2 weeks paternity leave, 20% coinsurance). Job 2: role is okay but higher level and great benefits (16 weeks paternity, 0% coinsurance, 5 more days of vacation). Total comp is the same though. I wonder if I should just focus on role but Job 2 is a large company, so I can move around after 2-3 years I’d expect. Thoughts?

Repost - The % of the African American population killed by police in 2019 is roughly 0.0005%. It was 235 people. But around the same year 6,000 african americans were killed by eachother. How do we reconcile these facts? In 2013, 72% of african americans were born to single parent households; one of the strongest indicators of future poverty and criminal disposition. Can we acknowledge and fix instances of police brutality while also not ignoring our cultural problems as well?

What does respecting your partner’s wishes mean? Does it mean I have to comply with whatever they want?

Went to a concert with my gf and it started at 8 and I suggested going at 9 because they always have an opening show. We argued and she said I have to respect her & it left me offended bc I do respect her

This morning, my apt was having a free coffee event and she wanted to stop by before leaving for work & there was a short wait that made her late and blamed it on me for not waking up contd

So am I naive for wanting to develop friendships with my coworkers? It seems like everyone has a life outside of work and as much as we talk about being collaborative and teamwork, no one on my team actually wants to develop friendships. Is it pointless? Like I don't want to waste my time but I do think the work culture would be more enjoyable?

Any tips on getting pregnant after having one miscarriage? Any supplements or things to think about?

EY leave department hasn’t been the most helpful with the exact details around maternity leave - so just wondering for any EY mamas - how do we initiate getting the two weeks before due date off? Just a doctors note or ??? Thank you!!

My husband just gave my dog pop rocks. As if she didn't have trust issues already.

Hi Parent 🐠 in Greater Boston area. Our kid is going to be 4 soon and we are trying to decide the right school district to move to. Any location recommendations? Any guiding principles? Any thoughts on public vs private school? And if possible, could you let me know how much you currently spend for home (mortgage, property tax, HOA etc.) per year and school (not sure what additional costs are there for public school but if private school, approximate tuition per year). Thank you!

Been with my GF since college and we recently hit the 4 year mark. 1-2 years into our relationship I found out she had instances of micro-cheating (flirting with guys, talking to ex’s etc - but nothing physical) and we addressed it. To her credit and my knowledge, she’s been apologetic and great at respecting boundaries since, but I still feel the pain from her actions years ago (and have talked to her about it). Feeling lost about whether to just leave or to try and work things out

My gf and I have been dating for almost a year and are thinking of moving in together. From your experience, would you consider that too soon? How long did you and your partner date before living together?

Can I live comfortably in Dubai on 25k a month? With wife and kid too?

How much of a salary bump does a secret clearance get? What are the salary bumps for popular certifications (PMP, agile, scrum master, etc.)? I’ve heard $10k for secret and $10k for scrum

Joining RSM soon! Is there a cell phone or gym reimbursement plan?

For those that obtained offers at EY during the month of October (any day), when has your start date been scheduled for? TIA

For experienced hires, is there any job related technical trainings during the first few weeks?

Hi fishes,
Looking for referrals in automation testing.
Tech stack - Java, selenium, TestNG, Cucumber, Postman API.
YOE - 4

Notice period 30 days. Chennai location preferred

Trump is doing five rallies in four states this weekend.

Biden is recovering from the beating he took last night.

Hi Fishers,
I have a interview with PWC for the Global Aura technical engineer, can you advise what can I expect with regards to the work been assigned for this particular role.

What happens in case of OBI violation any idea in Morgan Stanley?

Do any of the big four hold networks events in Detroit?

Let's vote! Which startup type is most likely to have a dysfunctional or toxic work culture:

Helpful: Single founder bootstrapped startups
Smart: Single founder funded startups
Uplifting: Multiple founder bootstrapped startups
Funny: This poll is dumb.

Comment if you would have selected multiple founder funded startups!

Posting a tweet containing a repository of VC resources in the comments

The relationship with my copy partner isn’t working as I expected. This person waters down every single idea we have. Have you experienced that before? If so, how would you manage the situation?

To get or not to get McDonald's? That is the question

What does respecting your partner’s wishes mean? Does it mean I have to comply with whatever they want?

Went to a concert with my gf and it started at 8 and I suggested going at 9 because they always have an opening show. We argued and she said I have to respect her & it left me offended bc I do respect her

This morning, my apt was having a free coffee event and she wanted to stop by before leaving for work & there was a short wait that made her late and blamed it on me for not waking up contd

If you were to have a collection of mysterious trading cards worth $10k, what would they be of? 🕵️‍♂️

Black F 🐠 new to the states and I just got my first brush with racism from 2 white elderly (50+) women! And might I just say wow! I feel so much for all non-white people that have lived here in NY and US at large. Q1 - How do you (non-white) cope with this?
I did see a full shift in their mannerism/retort when I responded with a European accent. Q2 - Why would an accent play a part in how one is treated racially?

What is the difference between fetish and kink? I thought they were same.

With these gas prices, I am taking transit and biking everywhere. No one can convince me to head back to the office 🙄

Been with my GF since college and we recently hit the 4 year mark. 1-2 years into our relationship I found out she had instances of micro-cheating (flirting with guys, talking to ex’s etc - but nothing physical) and we addressed it. To her credit and my knowledge, she’s been apologetic and great at respecting boundaries since, but I still feel the pain from her actions years ago (and have talked to her about it). Feeling lost about whether to just leave or to try and work things out

My gf and I have been dating for almost a year and are thinking of moving in together. From your experience, would you consider that too soon? How long did you and your partner date before living together?

Anyone else feel a silent pressure front their work that if you aren't doing something work related then you feel guilty?
Even after working a 10-12 hour work day you should be going home to do more work

Getting over heartbreak and having a full time job is torture lol. My boyfriend and I just broke up after almost a year of being together. It was such a beautiful relationship but ultimately he just didn’t love me. I love him so much. My mind knows that I deserve reciprocal love and I’m worthy, but I feel physically ill. My body hurts, my stomach is in knots, my head hurts. How is it that I have to mend a broken heart but also meet my billable hours lmao

girls can't you agree..nothing feels better than getting glammed up and listening to music after taking a bunch of selfies?

At a happy hour and my boss just told me she wants me. Currently in an Uber going back to her place. AMA

Gas is 5.30 in California right now. This is insane. Thanks Pootain.

Suggestions to change name of a company? My current employer is a Series A startup. Their name is weird and corny, and just not very techy. Wondering if there’s a way to bring this up to the founders so they would consider the name before we grow bigger and become stuck with the bad name

I wish my wife had a higher sex drive. Somewhat worried as we get older (currently in our 30s) it’s gonna dry up.

I wish I could find a guy who is as crazy about me as I am about him. I always meet guys that like me but I feel lukewarm about them or I like them but they don’t like me. Ugh. Why is life so difficult?

My career goal isn’t to make it to MBB or a unicorn or FAANG. It’s to feel fulfilled and challenged as I progress. I can’t be the only one that isn’t title or company chasing.

Therapy Scheduling Issues - I love my therapist but they are not able to schedule sessions on the weekend or Friday evening and I’ve missed 7/10 last sessions scheduled due to last minute work stuff. I’m sad I’m losing a great therapist. Should I try to make it work or find someone with more scheduling flexibility?