One of my closest friends have become so incredibly negative and self obsessed with her petty problems lately. I feel like all I do everyday is listen to her whine and complain! I’ve been trying to be supportive but at the same time I’m making positive changes in my own life and in my own mindset. How can I continue to be supportive while her attitude and negativity affect me and weigh me down? 😩

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Recommend her to therapy. And set boundaries. Who has time to hear that all day.

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Just drop them not worth having that noise in your life

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At first glance, sounds like your friend is depressed.

What are these petty problems?

They’re all about small work assignments… she just started a month ago and it’s been nonstop since day 1 😅

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Tell Karen if she has a problem to call her manager.

What you might consider petty can be significant for others. I'd avoid jumping to that conclusion. Perhaps there's a bigger underlying issue that's making her more sensitive to other things. Idk the context here but I'd suggest start by finding some time idk go grab a lunch and ask see what's going on?

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