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I’m so proud of you OP! I was in the same boat in college when I came out to my straight frat bro who happened to be my best friend and roommate.
IMO, accepting and coming out to yourself is the only “coming out” that matters. Then it’s your loved ones. Everyone else is not living your life. The internet has made coming out a big deal, but honestly it’s your business. If you rather have the conversation with family when it gets there, I say go with your gut and live your true self. (I came out to my mom on a toilet while FaceTiming her because the conversation just led there.)
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When you have a serious bf (or fiancé) it can be a good time to tell family. Then it’s not talking (implicitly) about your sex life but introducing your partner.
Go through this processs of telling one close l friend and then a couple of other friends and then kind of work their way up to telling their family and it’s like this whole big long process. But, idk, with me I just don’t feel the need to start telling anyone other than my one bro who I already spoke to. Like I don’t see why I need to go out of my way to start letting everyone in my life know that I’m gay. And in terms of my family, I’m not even too worried about their reaction I think they’d prob react pretty well to it but idk to be it’s weird thinking about taking to my parents about being gay. I know being a gay man has a lot more involved with it than just the fact that you like to have sex with other men but to me “gay” has such a sexual connotation and I’m not comfortable talking to my parents about something that is so sexually charged and that’s gonna a out images in their minds of me like pounding some dudes hole or vice versa lol.
But at the same time, with only telling my one and no one else in my life that I’m gay it feel like I’m not really coming out of the closet so much at all. Or I’m at least just doing a half assed job of it.
So what do You guys think? Is it chill or adequate just doing what I’ve done so far in admitting it to myself and telling one close friend or should I push myself out of my comfort zone a bit to tell everyone in my life who I’m still close with. I do kind of want to just so I don’t have this secret of anything but I just fear it’s gonna turn into this who production and I’m not trying to deal with that or cause any drama. I guess I trying to be just a very #casualgay and #laidbackgay.
You guys tell me. Have I come out yet? Does what I’ve done so far count? Or do I really need to take it a couple steps further to truly deem myself #officiall as a #proud #gay #jewish #man.
All you guys need to come to Miami btw if you’ve never been. Gays are like not just accepted but celebrated here especially in like south beach and the coconut grove area. #gaymiami #miamibeach #gayFL
Way to go. Of course what you’ve done counts as coming out. And do whatever feels right to you as far as who else you tell. Coming out is a personal decision. And enjoy miami! Sounds fun
As long as you never feel inhibited in speaking freely about your life, then fine. But if you have to mentally withhold or segregate parts of your life to avoid accidentally coming out to someone then that's a crummy way to live life.
OP, you will never stop coming out until society changes how it views sexuality - it just becomes more natural. It’s your journey, come out as you need to.