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I have 18 years of experience , out of which 9 years I worked in Manufacturing industry in Quality and Planning area, then I shifted my career to SAP Functional in Manufacturing domain and in IT industry now for last 8+yrs. In between I have done executive MBA from IIM Kozhikode.Am I eligible to work in consulting in Bain India and Bain any other country?
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You might as well. Saves a lot of stress of hiding your spouse/partner if you have one or lying. It has been easy for me in major US cities, but I acknowledge that it would be harder in some geographies.
I wouldn't because life will become, difficult in judgment and seriously disrespected
I’m pretty out at work. If I don’t feel comfortable coming out I couldn’t imagine what my junior team members must feel like, and I want to be a visible figure because I feel like I don’t see them in my field.
What I struggle with though is where I am level wise— it’s not really being in the closet but just single hood. As a senior manager it feels like all the heteros at my level are talking about kids. Kid free heteros are not but they’re so rare. As a single gay man I don’t want to share details about the 3rd disappointing date I’ve been on this month/ week.
Never had to because it was so obvious 🥹
I always said “me and my partner” etc etc, then one day my manager at lunch with my colleagues said “are you and your boyfriend going to etc...”. CLOCKED. I would say read the room depending where you are for awhile
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I recommend being in a position where you can talk openly about your life outside of work. Which might include dating, husband shopping, going to bars, having a bf, etc. As long as you can talk normally without feeling like you have to hide something, you're fine. But it would be damaging to my mental health if I had to be careful about keeping it a secret. I never "came out" - I just talked about my life and people figured it out. I'm reminded of how annoying it is to not be out when I go to southern and rural clients who assume I have a wife and I don't have the time or need to correct them so I just play along.
I always talk about my wife, never had a bad experience. My team is very diverse though and I live in MA - so that helps.
People appreciate when you’re being authentic
I tend not to, but I’m usually put in a position where I have to because people sometimes bluntly confront me and I’m not going to lie.
For example, if someone asks what my wife’s name is, or wants to set me up with some woman in their department, That’s pretty much it and the rumor mill will take care of the rest 😅
I'm trans and don't pass 100% of the time so I am just out wherever I go. Easy, pre-made decision