Why is it so hard to make adult friendships. I am trying my best to be out there, meet new people and explore new hobbies. I usually host them too but its been so many years now in the city and I still cannot call one single friend as a close friend.
I miss and long this bond. Not sure what I am doing wrong.

For context - I am a married woman 33 year, living in downtown toronto.

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I totally understand this feeling! I’m 30, also in Toronto. Things changed for me when I joined a book club- I made a lot of close friendships that way. Maybe look into that! I would also recommend attending events like “Timeleft” - it’s a great way to meet people!

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It’s the culture in Toronto. Can’t wait to get a job elsewhere and move.

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Feel free to dm me! I’m early 30 F, I’d be happy to connect for coffee

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I don't think you are doing anything wrong. Personally I see more and more people turning to transitory or situtional friendships. To give you an example I joined a ski club last year and made a friend when the ski season ended the friendship faded as we had different summer intrests. I also saw this with two female aquaintances who used to hang out often when they were both single, once one of them got into a realtionship they drifted a part.

Have a child! lol. I’ve made adult friends both at work (colleague turn friends) and through my child (their friends/classmates parents). It’s tough to make friends as you age but it’s definitely possible. If you find people you genuinely like, hold on to them!

It’s the driver, not the car.

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