Would you give a referral to your sibling? I love him, but I don't want to work around him or in the same environment as him. He's been unemployed for a while, and my company is hiring.. I want to help, but don't know if I'm making a mistake. It also won't be easy to skip him because we have a small team. What would you do in this situation?

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Hmm, that's a tough one. I wouldn’t give my sibling a referral in this situation. I love my brother, but I really value having my own space at work and keeping my professional and family lives separate-especially with a small team where there’s no way to avoid each other. I’d worry it could get awkward if things don’t work out, or even just day-to-day with boundaries and work dynamics. So I guess you're not the only bad person..

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Totally agree, definitely don’t do it. Family and business need to be separated for the ease of both.

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You are thinking too much. If you don’t support and help your family then who will?

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Give them a chance.

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Sure! Give a referral, just not for your team or company.

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I can't be selfish not to help my own family.

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If someone is not fit then i would not be asking this question.

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Well if my sibling did not give me a referral, effectively denying me of an opportunity to generate income, I’d stop all communication with them. Jobs are a matter of survival, not a matter of personal preferences. If your sibling forgives you for not giving them a referral, they are definitely someone extra good and special, because if it were me I’d essentially stop talking forever.

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What about helping him inside your network instead?

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If he is not a big trouble for you, you should. We are happy when we are doing well, and happier when our extended family and friends doing well.

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I would not refer my sibling because he has terrible work ethic! But I don't think that just because they're your relative, it should automatically count them out... let their personality, work ethic, or how you work together determine that. Just remember that their behavior will reflect on you a little bit even when management says it won't.

Do help him!

You are most familiar with your family member; what is their work ethic? A family member secured a job for my oldest sibling, and she was subsequently terminated.

Before you give the referral I would have a stern talk with your brother of referring anyone to jobs. Especially, when it comes to your work ethic and reputation. Sadly, work perception of you matters. Your family/friends need to understand and respect that boundary. After that talk, you can decide and say what you need to say. Honesty is best policy when the execution is handled with care. Good luck!

If possible refer him into a role that would not involve actually working with him.

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Qhi I am looking for a job I have experience in administration/ warehouse

Are there companies you interact with in the same industry that you could refer him to?

Id do it. Because its my sibling, as much as any other person on the earth needs a job, sibling needs a job too. If you can help your sibling earn, why not.
Id not worry about the dynamics, unless you guys hate each other.

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