Would you go to a wedding where you didn’t get a +1 invite, but others did? I’m assuming they’re worried who I will show up with. It’s a more conservative side of the family. I’m single at the moment, but would still like the option to bring someone. It’s not a financial issue for them, they’re plenty wealthy. It’s my nieces wedding.

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Not giving single people +1s is a common cost savings measure. I hesitate to conclude it is because you're gay, but I acknowledge that is a possibility.

If you're close enough to the couple, ask if you can have a plus one. Or ask if some straight people were also not given plus ones. The answer should address your discrimination worry.

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Yes. I have more fun at weddings alone.

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So yes - I generally do too… my ex hated going to weddings with me and making sure he was content was stressful… in this situation, I suppose I’m projecting a little, and assuming I didn’t get the option bc I’m gay.

Shame that you can’t find out directly, or assume that’s a reason. I live in a very conservative state but I don’t know anyone who would not give a +1 specifically because they are gay. I understand it happens though.

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I may be projecting idk… my mom seems to think that this is why.

Hmm. When we had our wedding, we sent an invite to each half of the couple. Singles did not get a plus one. That way no one actually got a plus one, they just got their own invitation, just to avoid the weird “only people in established relationships get a plus one” thing. You’d have to talk to the couple to be sure though. I only recently moved out of the Bible Belt, but 100% I knew people that would invite you, but no same sex partner. I also knew people that hated gay marriage but were inexplicably mad they were not invited to our gay wedding?????

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