Rant. This guy I have been talking to started making me feel bad about who I am and my roots. About how not American I am. He started calling me odd. I blocked him but now I feel inadequate.

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Omg 1) I look at being non American as a cool addition to one’s persona. You have an experience that automatically allows you to look at the world differently. If that person finds that “odd” then good riddance. 2) be yourself, out of 7 billion people you’re the only one with your thoughts, actions, and past experiences. Why would you dim that to assimilate? Sorry that person you dated sucks. You deserve better. Whoever you are and wherever you’re from is pretty awesome!

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Thank you. Definitely makes me feel better about myself.

He is trash. Your roots are part of who you are, but what you do with them and your other opportunities and experiences is what makes you American. We are stronger because you have experiences that are different from most other Americans.

Hugs, a native born American who still doesn’t understand football

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Unless he was excellent in bed, psshhh. Actions over words --- move on

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His brain is too shallow to understand the importance of diversity. Thank you, next.

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Being American is about diversity and freedom not homogeny. He was the one being un-American.

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Sounds like if you guys continued further he would want to change you and mold you into something he wants you to be. That’s not a good sign. Good riddance I’d say :) I’m international so I have felt this from time to time

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So many thoughts and feels because of this. All of which can be summarized with this: FUCK THAT GUY, and people like him are the EXACT reason why we need more people like you. Don’t let anyone get you down. You are loved and you belong here. We got chu! 💁🏻🤗

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Anyone who makes you feel bad about where you came from doesn’t appreciate or deserve the richness that comes from those experiences. I hope your feelings of inadequacy don’t linger!

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Y’all are my therapists. Thank you for making me feel better about myself. I have read each comment over and over again. It makes me feel loved. Hugs to each of you. If only I could meet you all in person.

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How do I sound American in my thoughts, actions, and words of mine? I have started to generalize and hate a section of society here due to my past experiences and I don’t like that feeling.

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