Heartbreak Help

3.5 year relationship. We haven’t been getting along for a while now and last night he said he doesn’t see a future with us any more. To be honest I was having a hard time seeing it too but was still … more

If we’ve been NC for 4 months, as the dumpee should I wish my ex Happy Birthday? We were best friends before we dated and I miss the friendship but not sure if I’m totally over it. Would feel awful no… more

This guy I was dating for 1 month and texting everyday ghosted me after our 6th date. We had just started calling each other babe..

So weird.

Really painful.

“if you break up, part ways, and still can’t leave each other alone, you belong together”
Thoughts on this? Seen reels and heard this a few times

I’m having the hardest time letting go of my ex who has told me point blank they don’t love me anymore. I keep reaching out sporadically hoping to spark conversation and although my ex responds each t… more

Struggling. I was blindsided by a 10 year affair (their spouse called me)

Mine said nothing happened since 2015, but more infidelity, far more recently, came to light. I always trusted them, and I've been burned badly.

I n… more

I still can’t think about what happened with my ex without crying almost 8 months later. Soon the time we’ve been broken up will have been longer than the actual relationship

I’m so heartbroken that it hurts to think and breath. Don’t know what else to say. Stay strong everybody.

Still think of my ex often. He broke up and wasn’t ready for a relationship (after six months of dating). I feel like the respect and the ability to resolve conflicts that I saw with him is something … more

The only social media that I'm connected with my Ex on is LinkedIn.
Once in a while, she'll post something or like something and it's amazing how just that one thing is a trigger to take you down old m… more

Nearly 7 weeks after we broke up we started hooking up again. We ran into each other at a bar by accident; we were both with friends. Now it’s been 3 additional times 🙈 and it feels just as exciting,… more

Hooked up with someone I’ve been seeing a bit this weekend and had a great time. I’ve really been enjoying seeing new women and being with all of my friends a lot.

Why am I wanting my ex all of the su… more

Saw on social media that my ex is seeing someone else. I’ve been dating too, just kind of sucks. We’re on good terms and have spoken a bit recently, but starting to think I should never reach out to h… more

Can any dumpee share success stories of reaching out the dumper ex after a few months of no contact? I know I shouldn’t but it’s been on my mind for days so I think I need to just do it.

Nothing like being in a new relationship with a fantastic person, and still being bogged down by insecurity and feeling ugly because your ex cheated on you. 🙃

The urge to reach out to ex today is STRONG. I had to stop myself twice. It’s been 6 months, when do we stop missing them?! Good gosh.

How do you get over the anxiety of seeing an "ex"? Background: I began dating women exclusively and joined a group for lesbian poc which is how I met her. The group is now having an event in… more

Feeling like I’m driving myself nuts because my ex is active on fishbowl (and maybe this bowl?) and I’m reading breakup posts and wondering if each post is them… some of the posts are really saddening and I can’t… more

Was looking thru some old texts with my ex and it made me realize how inadequately I was being treated. I’m embarassed and hurt that I put up with someone that didn’t give me anything close to what I needed and e… more

I miss my ex even though he’s not a good person right now and he was disrespectful of me, our relationship, and a lot of other relationships in his life. I know he was using me but I can’t make sense … more

I was doing really well in a breakup until a few days ago. I heard from a friend that ex was talking bad/making fun with some friends (one of whom was another ex).

I thought we broke up extremely cordially and … more

I’m in a new relationship after a devastating breakup and pending divorce (ex-husband had an affair). I adore my new partner — he’s so loving and understanding and doesn’t try to dim my sparkle. But i… more

Anyone reach out to their ex that dumped them after 3-4 months of no contact with an “I miss you” and something positive came out of it? No clue if they’ve moved on or not…I’m hurting bad

Saw my ex on a dating all today and it sucked. The last thing we said to each other was that she needed to heal and asked me to give her time. And i agreed and told her goodbye for now. We had a phone… more

Idk how to process and move on from my ex and our relationship when I don’t know what was real. I go between getting sad about letting go if it was real and being angry if I was just getting played an… more

Ex and I went on an international vacation but she stayed longer than I to meet up with a “friend” she hooked up with before and taunted to me in the past that she wanted to f**k. I told her I was hur… more

Is their birthday a reason to break no contact (as the dumpee)?

just want my crush to notice meeeeee 😭

I think my ex unfollowed me but I’m too scared to find out. I would rather not know so I can move on but the thought hurts and I still want him to follow me on socials to remember what he lost out on.

What should I do if I really like this guy I’m seeing but find his character to be questionable? Basically I like his personality but not his character. He’s done and does a lot of things that I don’t… more

My ex appeared in the "are we dating the same guy" group and the comments in there were astounding. Found out he was sexting another girl while we were together, and also had a FWB while we were suppose… more

Deep down in my gut I still feel my ex will come back. Even though he told me his feelings have shifted and we went NC — on month 2. We had a very deep emotional connection of 5+ years and I every bon… more

I think I’m going to give up on love because I lost the person that I think was meant for me to someone else.

I think my boyfriend is stalking and obsessing over a girl at his gym. I sometimes work out with him and when I do, they will talk and he’ll act like she’s just a friend but at home he’ll talk about h… more

Ex reached out after ~5 months to talk. This is the second time, and both times I’ve said no I’ll let him know when I’m ready. I don’t think he wants to get back together, but my guess is he wants to … more

My ex unfollowed me on social media about a week ago. I just noticed. It brought on a flood of hurt again. He’s probably just trying to move on himself, but damn this hurts that he really just wants to cut … more

Feeling really sad about my ex today. I know the break up was the right choice because I could never trust him after what he did and because he was a selfish person. But I do miss the good times.

Forgiveness does not require reconnection.

What exactly does 'processing' mean? All the breakup advice I hear comes down to processing – journal to process your feelings, take space to process your feelings, don't suppress your emotions,… more

It’s been 4 months since no contact/being dumped. We were BFFs for 6 years before we got into a 5 year relationship that ended. I will be in my ex’s city for work and want to text to see if they want … more