Idk how to process and move on from my ex and our relationship when I don’t know what was real. I go between getting sad about letting go if it was real and being angry if I was just getting played and manipulated. Any advice on how to move on while still processing these questions?

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Pick whatever version of the story that will help you get over him and stick to it. Don’t let your mind wander, don’t engage in fantasy. Give yourself a consequence if you fantasize for more than 1 minute. Build a life that they would be envious of and don’t stop building that life until you forget about him.

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Fantastic comment!! 🙏🙏 I’m def stealing the last line

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Therapy (with a GOOD therapist) has been very beneficial for me. Besides that, you need to give it time and in that time focus on your own personal development and growth (gym, journaling, time with friends and family, finding your own interests, etc.)

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