What exactly does 'processing' mean? All the breakup advice I hear comes down to processing – journal to process your feelings, take space to process your feelings, don't suppress your emotions, process them instead, it takes time to process your feelings, etc. What kind of 'processing' exactly am I supposed to do with all my painful breakup feelings? Yes, I'm actively feeling them, and I know why I'm feeling them, and then what?

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It's a made up term for people to feel like they're accomplishing something when they're upset.

As long as you aren't actively living in denial you're "processing" tbh

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Processing is allowing yourself the space, grace, and forgiveness to be human and truly feel, recognize and acknowledge the emotions you are feeling. It’s very important to not force this process as it might come back and haunt you later.

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It means identifying and naming your emotions. A lot of times you feel your feelings, and maybe you even *think* you know why, but you can’t name exactly what it is you’re feeling. Is it anger? Sadness? Betrayal? Journaling helps with this. Journaling also helps to solidify the narrative around the pain you’ve experienced, which is a key factor in moving on. How do these experiences integrate into the new vision for your life you are now creating? What meaning do they bring you and how much of your past will you decide to allow to dictate your present & future, if at all?

You have to be present with your emotions, not suppress them (suppressing means trying to change how you feel - “I shouldn’t be this upset and should have moved on by now, so I’m going to ignore my feelings”), and just sit with them. No distractions — like really feel the emotions and observe them.

Observe. Be present. (That’s what meditation is). The more you do that, the more you recognize how fleeting emotions are. It does take time; nothing is a cure all. It’s like building a muscle. And you have to figure out what concoction of strategies are personally effective for you. Not everything will click.

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