Heartbreak Help

I miss my toxic ex so much that I feel like I’m on the verge on having a panic attack continuously.

It’s been seven months since the breakup and I still can’t think about the pain of it all without crying

My ex and I broke up after five years of dating. He was really my only friend in DC and idk what to do. I’ve been spending most weekends miserable and alone. I’m almost 30 and feel like I’m going to b… more

I miss my ex and can’t get these obsessive thoughts about him being ok with our breakup out of my head. I’m too scared of dating or even meeting new people. This is the first time I’m this heartbroken… more

Habits by Tove Lo has been my theme song through this really rough break-up. Fellow heartbroken fish, what are you listening to as you deal with the feels?

Learning a lot about trauma bonding and attachment styles and drawing correlations with my toxic ex. How did you go about actually healing? I recognize the patterns and the wrongs but still miss them … more

I blocked him. I joined a gym. I got a dog. I got a new hobby.

Now what? It all still hurts. And after I’m tired from working out, playing with a dog, and doing new hobbies … how to I get over the longing that som… more

I'm 34 (F) and I'm not able to move on from my toxic ex because I've a fear that i won't be able to find someone else at this age. I want to settle down and tried bumble dating but aft… more

My ex’s tax return is arriving in the mail today. I kicked him out last month after finding out that he had an affair. Obviously I’m gonna forward it to him (he’s living in his mom’s basement since he… more

Months since I ended it but I'm struggling. The grief won't leave. I'm socializing, taking meds, in therapy, doing self-care. Nothing helps. I can't get over the loss. I'm still in love … more

My girlfriend and I are about to break up I think. It's my first girlfriend and while I care for her and there are no red flags, I just have so much anxiety about the relationship. I don't wa… more

My ex and I hooked up this weekend. She started talking to me last week and wanted to hang out with all of our friends in a group setting.

I didn’t really want that, and then she ended up coming over. Weird thing… more

sad about my ex not being in my life for the first time in about 2 weeks. this is the longest i’ve gone without missing their presence in my life and i’ve learned progress is truly not linear but the amount of ti… more

Lonely inside on a nice Saturday since I’d usually make plans with them. I know it’s just a slump and I’ll be back and better soon and reminding myself it’s okay to be lonely. Just had to share.

You know I’ve entered psycho territory when I get on WhatsApp to see the last active…maintaining no contact though but just being a psycho from afar. Please tell me it gets better. I just want to move… more

Why do I feel so anxious about removing my ex from my accounts like my Netflix or Costco membership?! I mean, he's even had more time benefiting from that stuff cause I forgot for a while and now … more

In recovery and I have been doing my work to recover from the breakup. I discovered that my ex was a fearful avoidant. I used to be anxious (but I am more towards secure since I started therapy more r… more

Nothing like having to break two weeks of blissful NC to help your ex get his phone off your phone plan because Verizon sucks. I just want to be left alone!

I was doing ok, maintaining some kind of functionality and normalcy, but then I suddenly just had the worst depression hit me. I realized I was in a relationship with a narcissist but kept making excu… more

Today I had a breakthrough moment where I realized it doesn’t actually matter what our relationship meant to my ex. What matters is that I know what it meant to Me. To me, it was REAL. Thinking about … more

We’re texting again. He started it. I’m going through some personal hard things w family and I reached out and he encouraged me to vent and share what was going on because I’d been there for him. That… more

Anyone successfully “restart” after a breakup — as in, move to a new city, get a new job, just start over? What was that experience like? Recommend or no? I just feel so stagnant and stuck here in the… more

Is watching stories breaking no contact?

Does watching stories count as breaking no contact?

In a breakup followed by no contact, do most people feel the dumper should be the first to reach out? I've seen a lot of dumpees say they wouldn't reach out first no matter what.

It’s been about 1.5 months since my boyfriend of 4.5 years broke up with me. He seemed a bit unsure about it and said he needed a reset. We had one conversation a couple weeks ago so he could explain some of the … more

Why is moving on from someone who was so toxic for you so hard? They’ve moved on from a 7 year relationship but here I am still holding onto Hope. It hurts so bad this sucks.

I don’t know how to move on but he’s long gone now. 😭

Struggling to regain my sense of self and identity after a failed STR. For some reason I can’t stop putting the other person on a pedestal even though I know they weren’t right for me.

Relationship of 10 years done. He never could commit. How do I not beat myself up for being so stupid and wasting so much time that I’m now in my 30s? To be fair he’s deeply confused - I don’t think h… more

Why do heartbreaks hurt so much?

My ex (30) is apparently in a secret rebound situationship with his secretary (21) and it’s so cliché it’s laughable 💀 I’m over here going to therapy regularly and instead of trying to better himself… more

In a cruel twist of fate, my ex showed up in the random array of fishbowl networking pics today. Set me back because I have gone no contact and deleted everything about them from my phone. Ughhh 🫠

Rethinking whether or not I'm compatible long-term with my partner. I thought we had the same values, etc. but I'm realizing he agreed with me on a lot of things, or omitted things, in the beg… more

we were long distance. he rarely said i miss you first. or cuddled me first. now i know why everytime he did show affection i felt special. because it was rarely shown in the way i needed it to be

i wish my phone would automatically delete all photos of my ex from every app. i thought i removed everything but there’s some random ones that pop up in the “x years ago memories”

Nothing hurts more than being left on read.

So this is a weird thing I guess, but I started doing stand up comedy. I had a show last month and it went really well. I felt like I had finally found my calling. I felt at one with myself, you know?… more

Ex contacted me today with a really long explanation of his side of the story and a half-assed apology. It came out of nowhere and was pretty random. I don’t know why he even sent it because it did no… more