Is their birthday a reason to break no contact (as the dumpee)?

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Nope. Stop looking for reasons to reach out. It’s not worth it, it won’t change anything and it will prolong the recovery period.

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No. As a dumpee there really is no reason to break NC (except maybe a death, but that’s it).

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So if you’ve been in NC for 4 months, as the dumpee should you wish your ex? Still have feelings but wouldn’t forgive myself if I didn’t wish them because we were bffs for 10 years before. The breakup after 6 years of dating has been very tough on me though ugh

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I think if it makes you feel better,yes. But assume you won’t hear anything back and if that’s going to make you feel shitty, then don’t. I’ve never read it but Nick Viall has a relationship book called ‘Don’t Text Your Ex on Their Birthday’ 🤦🏻‍♀️ We’ve all done it though so don’t feel bad!

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Naw

I broke NC and wished him happy birthday. But just one sterile message saying “have a good one”, nothing more, and def not anything emotional.
He wished me happy birthday for mine too, but his message was sweeter 🙄 I ignored the sweet part and just said thanks lol.

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