I’m having the hardest time letting go of my ex who has told me point blank they don’t love me anymore. I keep reaching out sporadically hoping to spark conversation and although my ex responds each time — to be nice — it’s after days and very platonic — obviously I’m not getting the hint and just embarrassing myself. Anyone else been in this position? How did you move forward? FWI we were together for 5.5 years 😔

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It takes so much time to get over a relationship that was that long. Give yourself grace.

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You have to go no contact. There’s no other way.

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I am sorry, OP, you have to go through this. I agree with M1 here. You are trying to hang on and giving yourself false hope, where he clearly no longer sees anything romantic with you. Do you really want someone who doesn’t want you? - try to focus all the love you have for him onto yourself - take a trip somewhere by yourself, read books, try new hobbies, take care of your body and soul in ways that you enjoy - do anything that shows love to yourself - it will get easier with time. Hang in there ♥️

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Kinda same thing going on for me

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Not sure I have the answer on how to move past it. I’ve been seeing other people, but not 100% over it all yet.

I think I need to not allow myself to dwell on the past, think there will be another chance, or let myself reach out to them as much as I may want to

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There is no easy answer but Jillian Turceki’s work really helped me. Please look her up and hope that helps you

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