I think my ex unfollowed me but I’m too scared to find out. I would rather not know so I can move on but the thought hurts and I still want him to follow me on socials to remember what he lost out on.

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Your goal shouldn't be to have him follow you, your goal should be to not want to have him follow you.

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Yeah I guess I get this now. Thanks

Very narcissistic to want to move on yourself by not knowing if he is/isn't following while at the same time not allowing him to move on by unfollowing you.

Break ups suck and are painful, but obsessing over his every action isn't healthy for you op

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Not obsessing over this, this is just something I noticed recently, I don’t feel bad for knowing my worth. My thoughts are more about him realizing whether I know it or not he made a decision he will regret, and I guess it won’t matter if he ends up unfollowing he’ll know it himself.

Based on this post, sounds more like he dodged a bullet rather than lost out on anything. Your ego sounds extremely inflated, and being petty is absolutely never a good look. Move on.

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Didn’t think it was about ego. Should I care probably not but I do believe at the end of the day he lost out. Nothing wrong with feeling this way.

Did he break up with you? I mean if y’all have any mutual friends it’ll come up again

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