5th year parent of two under two feeling incredibly overwhelmed with work responsibilities alone, let alone with taking care of my kids. Does it get any easier as you get more senior, or can I expect it to become even more difficult to manage litigation as I progress. I’m really considering tapping out. I have so many cases and am responsible for the first/fairly polished drafts of everything that goes out now. Plus starting to assign work to people and their work is so unreliable!

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I feel this. I just drafted a brief. It was so hard to do deep work. I’m so foggy all the time due to lack of sleep from two very young kids.

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Exactly! I would find it difficult to write briefs even if I wasn’t brain dead from lack of sleep. The sleep issues make it feel like a literal nightmare.

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It gets easier as kids get older and more independent. You don’t need to tap out.

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Yes it gets easier, but you decided to have children in an overworked profession before you had any flexibility in managing your practice.

Tap out if you don’t have time for your kids. You’re supposed to wait to have children until your practice is fully under control and you can make your own time for them.

Become of counsel or an associate at a less rigorous firm.

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Wtf is this. You need help.

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My peers or even partners that have young kids seem exhausted all the time. There's 1 badass woman who I'm convinced is a robot that seems to be killing both. I'm sure when your kids go to school it will be easier. Hang in there.

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It will get easier as the kids get older and you get more experience. You are in the thick of it now. It’s a struggle and it’s also a blip (a long blip). Do what you can, out source what you can and pass on the rest. You need to push back on poor work product ( in a nice training/mentor way). Invest some in that now and it will pay off later. Also agree with poster who said it’s okay if it’s not 100% all the time in the every aspect of your life. The kids won’t remember in 10 years that you missed something and you won’t remember the brief that was good but wish you could’ve made great. Your friends and family should be forgiving.

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Wondering the same. I am a 6th year with 2.5 year and 15month old boys. Balancing it all is tough.

I feel this. Minus the kids

I just found out this bad ass partner I admire who has three kids pays someone to live with them, manage every detail of their personal lives (like planning the kids bday parties) and takes her on vacations… idk if I want that but makes me feel better that I’m not a total shit mom because I don’t actually have mom #2 managing my house. At the end of the day, I feel like you need a stay at home mom, whether a real one or an added paid one to do this shit.

I’m a mid level with 2 under 2 and I can relate. I hope it gets easier. Thank you for sharing. You are not alone!!

4th year wondering the same.

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