A hiring manager recently told me I need to smile more if I want to build client relationships. I’ve worked in finance for eight years, hit every target, and never once thought my facial expression was the problem. I wasn’t rude, I just wasn’t bubbly and apparently that’s a dealbreaker. It felt less like professional feedback and more like a personality critique. How do you respond?

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You must be a woman? Never once saw a male colleague receive a comment like that, but I have been on the receiving end a few times. "I smile when it is appropriate to do so, just the same as you."

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Juas, what kind of company is that? Personality is the only thing you never change as a person. Whatever you are, be you as you can be. No one forced you to change

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I’m in the same boat right now and the funny thing is my hiring manager’s face never has a smile on it. They want you to walk around grinning for no reason. It’s always one excuse after the next when it comes to getting a promotion

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I feel like it’s not bad advice…

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