I have a crush on my counsellor at work. She's much older but still really gracious and beautiful. Should I go for it or is this a bad idea?

Do people at your agency treat foreigners differently? Seems like you need to double the effort to get half the attention

On a new project, how do you build relationships? What specific actions do you take? I’m not the type to randomly walk up to someone I have no real need to talk to and just ask them how they’re doing

off-topic:
in office have you seen any girl wear nosepin?

I have moderate-conservative views. My team, 6 other people, are all very left-leaning. Politics isn't usually discussed outright, but the liberal views frequently seep into our meetings. It's uncomfortable for me; I can't chime in when they talk about media, covid, news, etc. because I don't agree with their snuck premises. I get along with all of them and I don't think they realize I'm basically a closet conservative. Anyone else feel like a total outsider on their team?

Do partners in other small firms often communicate through a paralegal & task the associate with signing a motion/stipulation to modify allocation of parental responsibilities? My boss is out and the paralegal asked if he talked to me about signing a stop that he promised the client he would file today. For context, this is a client from before I started, I know nothing about the case, and I only interacted with the client in one call because the paralegal was out. Partner did all the substance

I put in a lot of effort to show my client properties that fit their requirements, but they ended up working with a different agent just because they wandered across an open house. I'm so frustrated right now. Has anyone else experienced this?

There's a senior asociate who everybody loves (he's like the class clown/cool guy/cracking jokes) like everyone adores him. He scheduled a meeting with me tomorrow to go over a project because he was my engagement manager but I have the WEIRDEST FEELING ABOUT HIM. I have like a bad feeling about him like i don't trust him and I don't know why...anyone else feel this way about someone a work? Is this intuition?

How do you tackle ignorant managers and favoritism in the team ?

My colleagues are bullying me for being gay. I thought that was against the law. Should I talk to a lawyer?

How to professionally break manipulative work relationships with your co workers and management?

How do you mentally put aside your personal stuff and not let it affect your attitude at work? I've tried giving myself a pep talk but doesn't always work

Are there grounds for reporting a coworker if they stole one deal I had been working on for months? I just feel it’s so ethically wrong.

Am I the only person who wears a suit (no tie) on closing day?

Anyone the only or one of a few POCs in their office and feel invisible to white shareholders? How are you navigating this dynamic?

Is anyone friends with their coworkers? As in hang outside the office?

I need to talk with a teacher about inappropriate behavior some parents are complaining that she has in the classroom. How do I approach this without accusing her or making her feel ambushed?

I keep running into mean girls at work and my social issues hold me back. Don’t know how to deal anymore.

When you tell your manager you are unhappy and they are excited that you are putting your notice and don't try and make any changes b/c the new person/persons they are lining up will just cleanup and make it better.

Then, they get here and you are left to train them on everything you do and your manager keeps saying "I owe you an apology" because they didn't realize how taxing and mind wrecking most processes you handled were... welcome to corporate

Team is already talking about eating hours. My utilization is down cause I was in unassigned for a month in Dec/Jan. What's worse pissing off the partner or having a low utilization? -staff 1

I am overqualified for customer service roles and under-qualified for technical positions! I have been applying for and haven't been able to land any in both industries.
I am willing to start from 0 and just get any position to be financially OKAY!
I am sure they all check my LinkedIn and realize there's a huge difference. My LinkedIn shows I have a master's degree and want to get a data analyst role.
How can one get a job while improving themselves to get the ideal role?

I got an offer from company A. I have accepted the offer and submitted the necessary documents. They have initiated bgv.

Now i got a better offer at company B. Can i reject company A?

I think I am underpaid at 90k B4 FDD as an S1 in HCOL. I had 2 years of audit experience prior and switched externally. Have been at new firm for about half a year. How can I ask for a raise?

Hi Fishes ,
I had a HR Discussion after clearing 2 HCL rounds and 2 client interviews . HR is not considering moving above 40% hike no matter whatever I say to justify, the Discussion was like talking to a wall . Any suggestions to get another 10-15% more (first offer)? Will HR reject me stating this reason in HCL ?? FYI- Client and the project team wants to take him in as per their feedback to me and I feel i am the right person for the role too .. 9 years exp -Infra storage domain .

Would love to hear what coaching models other places are using. We are using Jim Knights Impact Cycle model and we love jt. Any thoughts?

Wait … xlookup is basically VLookup and Index/Match?

Is this seriously a viable alternative because what the hell have I been doing with my life?

Hi Fishes,

I will be joining HCL next month... I got a mail requesting professional reference details like name, contact and email id from my previous employers... I worked in Infosys 9 years back... None of my friends works there was now... Any advice on how to do handle this?

Might have just made myself look bad, but I’d have done the same thing over again. Started a new client (finally thank God) and was supposed to be the only 1 staffing it. Found out an overseas person was allocated. Reached out to manager/partner - they didn’t realize and both made bad comments about them. So I asked… if I had to work with them. They planned for me to do the engagement alone anyway, and why would I want them if they clearly don’t either?

Any suggestions for a decently priced office chair? I am willing to spend up to $500.

What is the average salary for procurement clerk at Kaiser

Let’s say you’re looking to transform your fitness - lose weight, tone, stay generally healthy. I know diet is more important than exercise. Would you then first focus on your diet and build sustainable changes before getting to exercising? Or would you do both but focus more on diet? If the latter, how do you avoid getting overwhelmed with so many changes? And this is for a long-term ‘feel-good’ kinda lifestyle, not just for immediate weight loss

Hi there,

Best way to find an apartment in DMV area? I'm based out of Texas.
Know of:
Zillow
Apartment dot com
Facebook groups?

Any other methods that you'd recommend?

I’m a recent grad struggling to look after my health when I’m stuck in a cubicle 10+ hours a day. How do you juggle a healthy lifestyle with long hours at a desk?

How to join SAP LABS after working for 8 years as SAP functional consultant?

Anyone here have hypertension? How are you managing stimulants and their hypertensive effects?

I just joined a hedge fund from tech and was wondering how people in the industry usually invest given how restrictive fund policies usually are in terms of limiting most asset classes.

Colleague died over the weekend. Wondering why we don’t have more dialogue about mental health in this field.

Hi Fishies, anyone working at Visa as Sr. Manager or Director that could connect? Would like to know more about culture, pay, and growth. Ty in advance!

What’s a good non romantic birthday gift for a roommate? M gifting a F

Boyfriend got off the phone when the argument was his fault. Thinking about being the bigger person and calling him to resolve it, but realized I’m the one who always calls back and apologizes first. I want him to but also don’t want this to drag on. Thoughts?

Gift ideas for a SO? Looking for ideas to give to a guy as a token of appreciation. $50ish? Im seeing many girls turn to PS5 but I'm looking for something more personal

Need advice and help.

I have realized I grew up in a household where my dad did not treat my mom as an equal. He belittles her, is rude and convinced his way is the only way.

It is painful to say, but some of this shows up in me and in my relationship. I am starting to catch myself, and it to me seems to be more of a reaction than anythjng that is ever intentional.

Wondering if anyone has dealt with something similar, and any success in making changes besides therapy. Cont. in comments

What duration of break is perfect for a couple to figure out if they want to break up or move forward with the relationship? Me and my boyfriend, we fight a lot over petty stuffs and have disagreements over every little things. So, we decided to take a break to decide what’s best for us.

Is it bad to spend time with your SO every weekend? We’re both busy during the week so weekends are the only time we get

How do you get over the fact that your
bf (who is super active on social media
and USED to post you without you
asking) just never does it anymore?
You don't suspect him of cheating or
anything like that, he just doesn't think
to do it anymore. I don't want our
fights to be around social media, and
honestly am embarrassed even typing
out this post, but it’s been on my mind lately.

Reading Untamed by Glennon Doyle and I want my own Abby!!! Sigh.....

Tired of dating... Just looking for a husband at this point. Anyone interested? 👀 I'm a very fit, very smart, 30F.

Entering 2-4 years of long distance. Been together for a year. I know she is the one for me, any tips on making it as painless as possible?

Anybody here that few up in household where mom or dad had an affair? How did it affect your romantic relationships/beliefs/outcomes in adulthood?

My GF has trouble standing up for herself. She's on client travel and one of her co-workers made her really upset (very uncalled for and should have never happened). She called me crying. After consoling her I told her that she needs to go to her manager and possibly HR (yes it's to that level).
She told me she can't and she's not that person (she thinks she'll get the other person fired). She knows that she should and hates that she doesn't stand up for herself. What can I do to help?

Should I gift a guy if he’s never gifted me before?

I’d like to preface this post with saying I was in a very toxic relationship previously. I went to therapy, healed myself, and now feel I have found someone very healthy. He self reflects, he listens, he’s present, he makes me feel heard (mostly). With all that said, I can’t stop feeling like he’s only giving me the bare minimum. I do a lot of the small things, make sure I’m hitting all his love languages daily, and I keep feeling like he thinks he’s doing everything to keep me happy, but

Where are single men looking for single ladies these days? Tinder/hinge and other swipe apps seems to be flooded by onlyfan-ers which is fine (you do you boo) but not something i am looking for in a potential partner.