Am I being unreasonable? 2 1/2 weeks postpartum and parents of one of my husband’s close friends are dropping off dinner for us tonight. He wants to invite them into our house to chat but I really don’t want to because our house is a disaster, I look like a disaster, I am exclusively breastfeeding and can’t really time when I will be feeding the baby. I barely know these people. But my husband thinks we are rude to not invite them into our house when they drop off food. Maybe I am being rude?

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Compromise: he can invite them in to set down the food and give him instructions while you are “upstairs nursing the baby” (whether you really are or are not). You and baby will not be present nor see them and he can feel more polite, then ask the to leave within 10 minutes.

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Not unreasonable. Not even a little.

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I was driving when I responded but I wna say - bringing a meal is supposed to be something that helps YOU. Not a ticket to an invite to come in, see and hold baby, hang out.

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But no you’re not rude

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Not unreasonable at all

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Not unreasonable. Agree with M1, they are providing food because they (likely) know the first month is REALLY HARD. If it’s a gift, there is no obligation to immediately respond beyond a ‘thank you’. Invite them later, when you have your new parent feet beneath you, if you want. I highly doubt they’d want their gift to be a burden to you - that’s not its intent.

You're not being rude. If you feel like compromising, have him deep clean the whole house before the guests come over, then hide out in a different room while they are there.

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