Any other brides not had a bridal shower or bachelorette? There’s nobody to plan mine and I don’t really feel like planning a whole separate event by myself right now when my wedding is 9 weeks out. I feel bummed about not having one because it is one of those special bridal events but I just feel overwhelmed thinking of doing it myself

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I didn't have a bachlorette. My sister, future SIL and I went out to dinner at a nice place downtown and then went to a movie at the place where they serve drinks and the seats are recliners. it was perfect!

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I didn’t have a bachelorette and only had a shower because my mother insisted. I didn’t want either, so I’m in a different situation than you. I’ll tell you, once you have your wedding, those other events pale in comparison.

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I similarly did not have either of those because I didn’t want one. I think functionally they both don’t make a ton of sense to me

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What my wife did was she had her bachelorette after the wedding since everyone was together already. She had folks come from all over the world, so it made sense for her and she was fine with that. I think you should have one tho, your BM should support you in that too

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I’m only having one bridesmaid, my younger sister who lives out of state and is saving her PTO for my wedding. She wouldn’t really be able to host or organize anything. I like the idea of having a special event during the wedding weekend

Bacchelorette parties have gotten way overblown. They don't have to be an expensive weekend away. I have been on intown ones with a rented a limo, had dinner and bar hopped. I have been to spadays the weekend of. It's about celebrating with your best buds. When and where depends on where everyone lives and budgets. If your sister can't organize it ask a friend. Even we to a joint bacchelor abd bacchelorette where it was just the bridal party, everyone stayed in a big AirBNB and then each group did there own thing at night.

Showers these days are usually thrown by a female relative or friend of MOB or MOG. They tend to be for old female family friends to catch up, learn about your beau, or if MOG-sponsored, for her friends to meet you. If no one is stepping up, don't worry about it. They are not really for your peers. ( I know some do have them , IMO they all know you and him, so it becomes a gift grab)

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Just do it. Spa day for bachelorette party. Yehee!

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