Do you think you and your significant other should have similar personalities? My significant other and I are doing long distance and I feel like when I FaceTime with him, I emote more and show interest by asking more questions but from his end, he doesn’t always have a reaction or just nods, and it makes me feel like he’s uninterested. On his end he sees it as he’s comfortable.

How do you handle people’s kids showing up on video meetings? Screaming, kicking, hamming it up, (wasting time.) Everyone else is coo-ing…I’m not a kids person. Heard a technique which is to drop off the call bc you “assume the call is over” (which seems like a great way to get fired especially if it’s a way higher up’s kids - plus it feels rather passive aggressive.) Thoughts?

I'm done with this app. People are talking about that parents don't have the right to know if their kid wants to be called by a different pronoun and keeping things from parents. Makes me sick. I told them they're all fucked in the head. So I'll be booted soon. Good knowing some of you. Peace.

Here’s me. I’m 40 years old and TTC my first child.

Comforting others:
When someone tells me bad news regarding their health, I say everything I am supposed to say (I’m sorry to hear that, I’m here for you, etc) EXCEPT “everything is going to be ok”. Because I can’t guarantee that and I really don’t know if everything is going to be ok. I was taken aback recently when a friend told me I am calloused and cold-hearted for not being able to say those words. Is she right? Should I start saying this for the purposes of providing comfort only??

Appointment for marriage license seems unavailable on Project Cupid entirely. Anybody know why or have tips? We’re looking to get married early July… (finally pulling the trigger after waiting for pandemic to go away)

I low key miss fridays in the office because I don’t know how to make new friends as a 26 year old

Hi
Are there any couple pg/studio aprtment in pune wanna shift with my wife for some 3-4months.
Please help me with some suggestions..

3 years ago I distanced my long term love and chose my ambition to complete an MS and create something for both of us in hopes to get back to her as a grown independent man. I lost her for not being there “enough”. Should I regret it? Should i have chosen Love and regretted not achieving my dreams? (We are 27, we fell in love when we were 15) I was a no one back in the day but now it’s totally different, i am debt free, financially stable and ready to settle down.

How do you know if you have outgrown someone? Known my boyfriend for 2 years but have dated seriously only for 6 months. Confused as why i’m feeling this way.

Anybody single in their late 30s / early 40s given up on marriage? How do you see your life progressing? What do you do day-to-day to cope with loneliness?

Only for men:

How do you deal with a best friend breakup?

I know friendship breakups between men are not talked about openly, but I had to.

Best friend was a Male too

Feeling a deep void in close human connection after letting go a relationship that was lacking a future (I was interested in something more, he was unsure). Can’t stop thinking of reaching out and need strength to just stay with the loneliness and have hope for the better times. Would appreciate support. It’s been 2 weeks but I feel bouts of extreme sadness and desire to have someone to share my life and days with.

Hi ladies! I’m in my early 30s and haven’t never been in a successful relationship but would really love to have kids. I’m considering doing it on my own but terrified by a few things- effort, work, Indian community...

Has anyone done something similar?

I’ve been in a relationship now for two years. We are living together. We talk about the future etc. I could easily see myself marrying her. However, I have an issue… cont

Just found out my boyfriend of 3 months (talking stage was about 6 months before making it official) slept with his ex a couple times while we were talking. After we agreed to be exclusive. Without protection. I’m so crushed 😞

Trying to help my retired dad - When I google for what to do after retirement, only retirement planning related things shows up. My dad has been a workaholic and hasn’t developed many hobbies he could pursue. I was wondering how I could help him stay slightly occupied if not busy. Anyone here experienced this with your parents or yourself? How did you navigate this?

This is an emotional dump rn. It may be lack of social interaction but I'm really frustrated lately. I feel like I lost last 2.5 years of my life with ongoing lockdowns and job instability in the first half of the pandemic. I was 28 turing 31. I get good dates but -ve self talk
Inflation is high & coming from a low income family where you're supposed to help your parents is driving me nuts. Although I make a good salary, after rent, car insurance, there isn't much left (unfav currency exchange)

A professional couple (ages 42 and 53) in Long Beach looking for other couples for platonic friendships. We are two relatively successful guys, very secure in our relationship but we don’t have a lot of friends. Neither of us have any family near by. We are looking for a similar couple to be friends with, hangout and just be there for each other when needed.

I am so tired of my sister and mom, and the pressure they apply on me to get married, 32 year old female and I have not met someone yet. I was in a relationship last year for a year and he turned out to be a very mean person and they now don’t trust me at all and want me to marry the first nice guy I go on a date with even if I have no attraction at all, and if I go on a couple of dates and I don’t feel it, they question my judgement. I feel like dying from the pressure.

What does col a /=/ ‘ONE’ :: “VARCHAR” do in Netezza. Join or checks for null or match to ONE ?

How can I use the same in Oracle database? Any suggestions

What’s the going rate for a Group EP in nyc? Either freelance or staff?

Anyone taken the CFE or CIA? Feedback is appreciated with respect to review courses and prep time. Thanks.

What’s the shortest amount of time it’s respectable to be in a job before leaving?

Should those of us who write code be taking a moral/ethical responsibility for what the code is used for?

Hello Fishes!
I am a fresher. I have 4 months of experience in Business Intelligence. I've Worked on Qlik Sense/View for the development of all the analysis.
Any new job openings for entry level candidates Please reply.
Location: Mumbai

That moment when you don’t remember if you took your Adderall so you take one just in case 🙃

Anyone know of law firms/companies hiring entry level attorneys in tech trans?

Thinking about taking a position with an aviation company in Melbourne next year. Currently in Orlando Florida.
Would love some feedback/advice from locals regarding such a move. Thanks!

I really wanna enter Young Lions but I’m 30... what if my partner’s under 30? 😂😩😩

What is meant by a "Lateral Hire" in Infosys?

Why Data Modeler role is on high demand these days?

Require referral for Data Engineer position in reputed companies in Pune.

Yoe - 1.2yr

TIA.

Hello Fishes, I needed a suggestion on below:
I have been working on AWS cloud services from ~2 years. Recently joined new org. where the work is on Azure Cloud and more into Azure Databricks, Synapse Analytics, CosmosDb etc.
I'm not exactly sure at this point If this is a good move to switch technologies.

Can you fishes pls guide or help me if this Azure Cloud related services stated above are good in terms of current tech stack in market demand or did i made a wrong move? Pls help.. 🙏

Taking a counteroffer and after 4 months leaving for another job. Will I be burning bridges?

Has Bain London started rolling out interviews for Associate Consultant (Experienced hire)?

I have not heard for a long time so wanted to check.

Haven’t done the dating thing in a while so need advice! (F here) Met a guy at a party on Sat, followed each other on insta, then I dm’ed him my number saying “lmk if you want to get drinks sometime”. He then texts me and says something along the lines of “yeah let’s do it” but doesn’t offer any concrete plan. Does this mean he’s not super into it? Or am I overreacting and I should initiate the plan? I initiated the insta follow and the dm so I feel like it’s his turn…?

How do you know if you have outgrown someone? Known my boyfriend for 2 years but have dated seriously only for 6 months. Confused as why i’m feeling this way.

My date won’t share his playlist with me (I can listen to it but he won’t share it). Just curious, is playlist a big deal to guys? We are both at early 20s and only dated for a week

I’ve been in a relationship now for two years. We are living together. We talk about the future etc. I could easily see myself marrying her. However, I have an issue… cont

Fiancé’s milestone birthday coming up. We both love experiences and enjoy the city. Welcome all the help to make it special for her!

So something crazy happened to me last week. I was at the airport, and as usual on call after call. The check in line was going ridiculously slowly and at some point turned threw my hands up in frustration while looking around to find another place to check in. In doing so, I catch the eye of the behind me. He smiles and says something. I just sort of nod and carry on with my call. After that, he keeps trying to talk to me, eventually I got to the check, say bye and leave. At security… tbc

Just found out my boyfriend of 3 months (talking stage was about 6 months before making it official) slept with his ex a couple times while we were talking. After we agreed to be exclusive. Without protection. I’m so crushed 😞

This is an emotional dump rn. It may be lack of social interaction but I'm really frustrated lately. I feel like I lost last 2.5 years of my life with ongoing lockdowns and job instability in the first half of the pandemic. I was 28 turing 31. I get good dates but -ve self talk
Inflation is high & coming from a low income family where you're supposed to help your parents is driving me nuts. Although I make a good salary, after rent, car insurance, there isn't much left (unfav currency exchange)

How long did you date your SO before moving in with them?

Boyfriend and I have been dating for ~1.5 years and we still only spend weekends together. I want to move in together at the 2 year mark but bf thinks it’s too soon... just feels our relationship is stagnant and not going anywhere. Any thoughts from ppl who’ve gone through similar situations?

Any suggestions on how to save a alcoholic spouse?

My natural instinct is to assume rejection if I have conflict with a partner or don’t think my feelings are reciprocated. I’ll try to bring it up with them, but I’ll say “if you want to end this feel free” so it doesn’t hurt me (and they can say what they really mean instead of sugarcoating). Someone told me today that they just assume I’m not interested because I always seem to “run” but I’m not sure how to bring up problems/feelings otherwise. How do you approach these hard questions?

I’m (early30s) about 8 months into a relationship with a 40m. Things are wonderful in every aspect, but he is absolutely atrocious with his finances. I felt it becoming an issue about two months ago. He forgets about auto payments and just generally doesn’t care. I sat down with him and looked at everything and even after talking it out he still continues to stress and it’s now causing me stress. I had a final discussion with him today about it and he went on abt how love isn’t enough for me…

My friend just got out of a relationship and hooked up with his ex's best friend a week later. They're now dating and seeing each other everyday.
I couldn't help but feel like this wasn't an appropriate thing to do for both parties. He also revealed that he cheated on his past exes.

I'm naturally feeling a bit weary of his character and questioning whether this is a friend I want to keep close in my life. Perhaps I'm being too judgmental?

Have you ever snoop through your partner’s phone without them knowing? If so, did you find anything shocking?!

Gift ideas for GF dad? We have been dating a year and a half, I get along with him super well. He is dealing with some medical complications so isn’t to active at the moment but loves cooking and golfing. He is one of those guys who already has everything he needs, and they are super wealthy so I feel bad getting him any clothing or accessories knowing it wouldn’t be as nice as the things he wears, although I know he doesn’t expect anything and would genuinely appreciate anything I got him

My GF and I are dating for 2.5 yrs , She met an office colleague (he has a GF) recently who she initiated a friendship with. I feel that they interact a lot and I'm a little worried of her getting too close to him. A day ago she asked him for lunch and they were out for almost 4-5 hrs. When I expressed how I felt she keeps saying there's nothing going on. I feel that when start to get emotionally close to some other guy than SO then it's not a good sign in relationship. Am I overthinking? contd.

Have you walked away from somebody you loved? And why?

F*****-up story…please be constructive (but also open & direct)
With my wife for 14 years, 2 kids under 8y - both under a lot of pressure bc Covid/work/private life/… and have been (unconsciously) running away from our couple not working “since a long time” (dixit my wife). We want to try and fix it, but I also met someone new (not sure if she would even want me) and wondering if it’s worth fixing it (since we are trying/running/avoiding it for years) - just worried about the kids…any advice

Dating my guy for 6 months now and he’s just such a lovely soul but I’m not physically attracted, there’s no spark and I’m afraid to let go but also afraid to keep holding on..