Any tips for handling short tempered wife? Travel and handling a kid alone are major contributors, but even 2-3 small mistakes trigger an episode, where issues even from past years are brought up. TIA

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Read "Drop the Ball" and proactively manage her workload by streamlining what she needs to do while you're on the road (help prep food, do your own laundry, hire a cleaner) Her temper is short because she's exhausted

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I just make sweet love, and it works like a charm every 10th time.

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What are you doing while you are traveling to stay in touch, listen to her shit, see your kid and show her she can count on you?
What are you doing when you are home? Are really home or do you take off with your friends, play golf, TV, etc? What kind of a dad are you... do you make it up when you return?
Consulting is tough for you and tough on her... and recognizing that you cant be selfish and giving more of yourself will go a long way. Also, if you took this job, hopefully you made the decision together and set expectations. If your wife is not onboard, sooner or later you'll need to pick... consulting or wife.

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Feel you OP. You are not alone! Hugs!!

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You guys need help talking to each other. Seek assistance. Communicating is hard. Communicating on top of having a kid is fucking hard. If she’s bringing old stuff up it’s because to her it isn’t resolved. Help her talk to you better. And help you listen better

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Same story everywhere .

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You need to have a conversation about fighting fair. Issues from years past need to stay in the past.

Tell her to cool the jets babe. That’s what my dad used to do to my mom. Prob not acceptable these days! When my wife gets upset, I ask her to make a list

Thanks guys... appreciate the suggestions and empathy. Agree on doing more and being more "present" at home to not trigger anger... it's just that these episodes of outburst seem sudden so I need to work on reading between the lines to see them coming. Been reading "Men are from Mars... " and see some good practical advice to read minds of the opposite sex and help communicate better

Reading between the lines doesn't help anyone. Assumption is NOT the answer. You have to communicate and sounds like you both need to learn how.
Effectively being on the same team is a bitch, but the only way it will work. Being present and everything is an action but not a solution. Sounds like you need to get on the same page, resolve old shit, understand what makes each other tick, and recognize that happiness is derived individually but can be shared.
That's what I took away from 2+ years of therapy. Good luck.

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