Does anyone feel a disconnect with friends who work a typical 9-5, or those who are non-entrepreneurial and/or never owned/run a business?

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I don't know if I feel a disconnect but I feel its definitely very hard to get with my friends due to their work schedules, their kids schedules, my schedule, etc... I'm always on the go I feel and never have time for anything anymore. Its go go go all the time.

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I feel you 🙏🏼 it’s like this constant struggle to find a balance between personal time, work life, friends and family …

But when you do find the time, are they genuinely interested in what is going on with your work? Like, do they ask you about your clients and cases, showing interest in what you’re working on?

Given our jobs consume a majority of our days, it is a big part of our lives; although it does not define who we are and there is much more to us than just our jobs, it is a big source of our stress, happiness, fulfillment, etc.

Ya'll still have friends?

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Lol I think that's a problem more of us are facing than I realized! It's just one of those things that's difficult for people to understand

This post hits me😩
I feel like my friends and I are so distant because of my job. When I’m off work, I’m exhausted and want to close myself off from the world. But I hate that I don’t get to hang out like I used to. The practice of law has its appeal, but sometimes I feel enslaved by it.

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Absolutely. It’s a totally different lifestyle. The right friends will understand and will work with you to see you despite your busy schedule. They may not be able to understand your experiences but it doesn’t mean they can’t be supportive. I think the biggest thing is making sure you put effort in to support them and try to empathize with their experiences too.

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YES. I agree with others here. My friends act differently around me because I'm working so much & I'm not able to do as much as I used to. They have commented on how I think I'm better than them, and I try to tell them it's not that. I wish they could see how busy & exhausted I am. And the thing is, I love my job & I also really miss them. Finding the right balance is challenging.

Make new friends through networking and you’ll have more in common as well as referral sources.

Everyone's living different lives so I wouldn't hold it against them if they don't have the time or energy to keep up with what goes on in my life. That's what low-maintenance friendships are for.

Sometimes, I do. But thankfully, some of my friends still make some time to arrange a simple dinner.

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