Anyone else put up some hard boundaries at work and get up level pushback? Like I have a hard stop at 5:30-8:30 to take care of my toddler and if they need me to work weekends I need to know by Thursday so I can set up childcare. IMO if you bristle at these boundaries it’s a clear sign you’re a dinosaur and not as modern or flexible as you claim to be.

I haven’t had any type of romantic/intimate relationship in 10yrs, since I was 16. It has to be me and I should just prepare for a life alone, right?

My boyfriend fake proposed to me last night at dinner with our friends and it was the most embarrassed and uncomfortable I’ve ever been. Please help me understand what was going through his to justify that action.

Recommendations of infant/toddler daycare near park hill neighborhood? I work in downtown so downtown area can also be considered. Thanks!

Last night I went over to my friends house (she has 2 kids, 2 and 4 yo). She and her husband were asking me about my pregnancy and planning. And were asking what I’ve prepped to date. I’m only 13w2 days so I think it’s way to early for buying stuff, but I did mention we hired a baby nurse for when the baby comes. My friend completely berated me, short of calling me a bad mom already, saying “what is she going to do all day? Don’t you want to bond with your child?”. I’m so upset by this.

I have an offer from virtusa for 17 lpa the project is of banking domain how is work life balance and tech stack?

Hi folks any opinions or insight on Crowe consulting? Been reached out to by recruiters and they’ve been pushing the work life balance and ‘best place to work’ spiel. Wanted any guidance I could get in considering this. Currently an engagement manager at tier 2 strategy consulting firm

How did parenthood change your relationship with work? For the men and women

Every time Im getting fed up or tired with work, my senior manager tells me what a good job I’m doing and suddenly I want to work harder and more weekends. What is wrong with me

Advice Needed!

Situation: Current US Citizen with girlfriend (International) who will be graduating in December and start OPT (1-year). Considering the following options for various reasons, any thoughts/oversights appreciated. Will also consult with a lawyer but wanted to get a gauge from those with experience. Cont.

Anyone have any similar experience or insight? My boyfriend asked for space/not really together anymore and he says he started to become nervous about being in a long term committed relationship. Even tho he said he saw me as long term & I’m his best friend and he loves me but why then? Does space help you guys figure it out? (Help / advice please😞)

Been friends with a girl for years (I’m a M). We recently have been getting closer and chatting a lot more. I told her I’m starting to develop feelings for her and that I want us to try dating. She said she’s going through a messy breakup now (wasn’t a clear yes or a no response). Do I continue to get closer to her as friends after that conversation or is it better to give us both space?

Approaching 30 now and living with roommates in NYC, but considering moving to my own place. Has anyone found that living with roommates is better than living alone? Conventional wisdom says no.

I’m a pretty outgoing person and i like to have people around. I also like my roommates cause we chill. So I’m really scared of moving in alone and being lonely. Increase in rent will be marginal and totally affordable.

Which is better to join Capgemini or IBM with same fixed components considering work life balance.

At what point in a relationship do you expect your SO to make a reasonable effort to show up to major family events (i.e. graduations, weddings, etc.)?

Been seeing a guy for a few months now and I can’t stop myself from getting in my head. I’ve never been in a solid relationship before like this and I’m afraid I’m going to mess it up. We’re together most nights and some nights I need a night off or some space, but when I don’t hear from him I get paranoid that I did something.
I don’t know how to just let things be and feel we’re as good as I know we are.

Hi friends, how much variable payout we can expect at Hitachi Vantara on an average?
Please comment on HV's project pipelines, job security and work life balance (data engineering track)

Thanks..

Hi Fishes,
Please suggest a good project for java and spring boot developer in ibm ..Am looking for good tech stack and WLB

Hi all! I’m inclined on taking up the CIPM training and certification exam. I’m already a certified Data Protection Officer in the Philippines. I intend on skipping CIPP as it applies to the US and EU.

How difficult was the exam? Can you share your experience studying for the CIPM exam? Is it advisable to skip CIPP?

Many thanks in advance.

Looking at moving to SF soon. Any recommendations on what neighborhoods to look at? Office would be close to Salesforce tower, so something with easy commute to there would be great. Single late twenties male if that matters. I am interested in areas that are generally not dead and where I can meet people. Thank you.

Any good moving companies to move from socal to NorCal?

Does anyone know of sushi conveyor belt restaurants in the city?

Looking for a job change, any M or SM innthis group who need a Ba? Im Having 8 YOE.

Please comment or DM

Hi Fishes,
I have 1.8 yrs Exp and working in the Big data domain and have a few offers please help to decide on the comparatively better option based on salary, Work-life Balance, security, and Carrer Growth.

EY GDS: CTC 12 ( 11.20 Fixed )
Publicis Sapient: 16 CTC ( 14.5 LPA FIXED )
Neudesic (IBM) 16 CTC ( 14.5 FIXED + WFH Remote Complete )
PubMatic: 22.70 CTC + 2 lakhs Joining Bonus ( 16 fixed LPA + Other benifits, stocks, etc )

It will be very helpful if you can suggest with some reason.

After nearly a year WFH and being with my family 24/7, I’m not entirely sure we actually like each other. Or maybe they don’t like me being at home. Or they don’t like me. Probably the latter 😞

Has anyone recently worked on a soc2 audit? Any good resources you recommend?

Which US schools are IVY schools?

Has anyone ever received an "interest check" from the property management company at your apartment building? I received a check for $.35 and I am really confused. The property management offices are closed this weekend but I plan to call on Monday. I mean sure I'll take these few pennies but also can't help but think what is the catch here lol these luxury bldgs usually take my money -not give me money.

I’m getting a crazy good deal on the Ritz (~250 per night) in Miami - but it uses a Corp code for a company I don’t work for. Worth the risk?

Married men of this group,
What advice would you like to give to the younger generation who are single/about to get married?

I’m having trouble working in Tax. I’m overwhelmed and am feeling like I’m not producing my best work. I want to talk to someone at work about it but a) I don’t know who to go to and b) feel like it’s not worth it because there’s nothing that anyone can do but tell me to get a different job. I feel like I SHOULD say something to someone though, right? Idk. I’ve been on the job hunt for a while now and am not really having any luck, which is just adding to my despair. What should I do?

The next $GME is DOGE.

Does google flights increase the price on repeat searches if you don’t book the flight right away?

Anyone have any leads on a Trademark Counsel position? I'm just starting my 7th year of practice and want out of private practice. I'm in Colorado and would prefer to stay here but am open to full remote opportunities as well. Feel free to message me if you know of anything. Thank you!

Hi guys, a plea for help here 🙏🏻 have any founders here gotten an O-1 visa or an H1B transfer into their startup? Would greatly appreciate hearing your advice / experience over DM