Anyone have any similar experience or insight? My boyfriend asked for space/not really together anymore and he says he started to become nervous about being in a long term committed relationship. Even tho he said he saw me as long term & I’m his best friend and he loves me but why then? Does space help you guys figure it out? (Help / advice please😞)

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Probably has avoidant attachment style. Look it up and read about it. If the descriptions sound like him, you probably didn’t do anything wrong and there’s not much you can do to help him become securely attached — he would need to do the inner work and reflecting on his own.

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How long have you been together, and how long did he say he wanted space for? Have you guys been fighting, or what has changed that may have prompted this?

he's probably freaking out that it's been a year. Ask him how much more time/space he needs, and set an end point to it, and then do not contact him during that time. set rules around the space (whatever rules you are both comfortable with, but things like no dates with other people, or dates are OK but no sex with other people, etc)

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