Do I have to choose? AM10 senior associate, and looking to switch to a completely different practice area. But also trying to expand my family (I already have multiple kids). I had an amazing interview today, but now that it seems more like a reality, my husband seems concerned. The first year will be rough, 9-12 hours of work each weekday. If I get pregnant, I’ll have to take mat leave at the end of my first year. But if I don’t move now and have a kid, moving seems almost impossible.

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Does the new firm have good parental leave? To be honest, big law has some really good parental leave policies, so you don't want to end up with 6 weeks unpaid or something if you leave now. Maybe sure you understand all their benefits before making the move. I feel like the pivot will always been there if you decide to leave - maybe not at this firm, but definitely somewhere.

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I do think you can successfully pivot now and have a baby! You clearly will be successful wherever you go! But make sure you understand if you'll have shorter leave etc before going if that matters to you.

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But logging on everyday is like pulling teeth. I can’t believe I made it this far doing something I dislike, and can’t wait to pivot to something that I’ve always wanted to do (family law). Am I crazy for thinking that I can do both?!

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For me, I’m not at my best while pregnant or postpartum, I don’t know if I’d make the best first impressions at a new job or feel like I could hit the ground running at this time. everyone is different (and every pregnancy is different). Also I agree with the poster above about big law maternity leave, I’d already switched to a boutique for my pregnancies and it’s too quick!

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Make the switch. Do what you want. Our newest team member is taking mat leave before hitting the one year mark and it hasn’t been an issue. She says she’s very happy with the move and has gotten up to speed without issue. It probably doesn’t hurt that the firm gives 6 months leave.

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I had the worst time during my first pregnancy and was lucky to have s job I like and understanding coworkers. If that wasn’t the case, I’d be even more miserable.
I’m now pregnant again after only 15 months (by choice) and unexpectedly got pregnant on our first try (it took us a year for the first one). I would not want to do this in a job where I’m miserable! Take the new one!

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I don't think that you're crazy. Is there a good chance that you'd become pregnant so quickly? I was always told it would take about a year of trying.

My law school friend when she saw me randomly somewhere with all three of my kids “You’re.. err.. very fertile” 🤣

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Why not take the job and wait at least six months before trying to get pregnant?

I’m in a similar position and can’t decide! Biglaw senior associate but set to start IVF for #2 in the fall (as soon as our clinic allows). A boutique in an adjacent but different practice has shown interest and I’m confident I would enjoy the actual work at the boutique quite a bit more…but really hard to pull the trigger knowing they offer half the paid maternity leave (12 wks vs. 24 wks) and want 5 days a week in the office. But so burnt out in my current hyper technical specialty practice and it would be rough to last until mat leave #2, especially if it requires more than one IVF cycle.

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