Dads with older children: while raising your children, did your children prefer their moms over you? I know some will prefer dads over moms, but I assume majority of children out there will prefer their moms over dads… I have one child and it kinda hurts to see my child always preferring the mom over me. I know I shouldn’t feel this way, but I just do. How did you cope with such issue raising your children?

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Haha, great question! It might be a tad late in the day to try this, but they recommend skin to skin contact with baby in early infancy to build a bond with the baby. But even if you did this, baby would still have a slight bias for the mom (hard to compete with mothers love & breast milk). Better way might be to build your own unique bond. My baby boy loves to do silly things with me (blowing raspberries, soap bubbles, rolling/lazing around on the carpet, etc). Children are very perceptive and can discern the difference in yours and your wife’s touch and there’s a lot of literature about how important Dad’s role is in raising a baby. Just work on associating baby’s time with you as fun and you’ll notice the difference. Also, please watch “Dads” on Apple+ great documentary on being a dad :)

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