Feeling pretty overwhelmed to work effectively and cope with new little one in the family (with little sleep). Did anyone have drop
in performance ratings after kids, and was the firm understanding?

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Take your full quota of paternity/maternity leave. You need it. Also, if you drop to average, as long as you are still performing average on the projects, I'm pretty sure you'll be fine.

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Hi yes. I know how you feel. I had twins and was in a crazy project. We had no help. My wife had a c section. I had to join this project 2 weeks after my babies were born because it was a local project. I would get only 2 or 3 hours of sleep in the night and would have to work 10 to 12 hours everyday to meet the crazy deadlines. Clearly I was not able to. I got 3 and did not get promoted to SC in 2 years. Now my babies are 2 years old. Still a lot of work, but much better. I still got only a 3 because I could not spend a lot of time going firm activities but got promoted this year. Still have to work close to 10 to 11 in my crazy project. Hang in there. Things will get better. And remember your family is more important than your ratings. Take care of your wife and newborn they need you more than performance ratings.

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Just had a second kid, prepared to be average this year because I want to prioritize time with fam over work. The world will still move on and work will continue, only you decide what you want.

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Yes and yes

Get help!

I definitely went from high to average. Still am about average because I prioritize my family quite a lot now. Hang in there

Feeling overwhelmed is normal. I have four kids. With the birth of each I felt overwhelmed. I have found the first couple of months to be simultaneously and paradoxically the longest and shortest periods of my life. My advice to you would be to focus on your family and what you need to do for them. My thought process was always that I would rather fail at work than fail at being a husband and a father. Work is always worked out just fine for me and through the process I have become a better person and professional.

Apologies for talking about myself but I thought my experiences and thoughts might be of benefit to you. Best of luck. Hang in there.

About to go back to work after 2 months off for paternity. Feel like I’m ditching my kids I really don’t want to go

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