Hi All,
Kind of a personal question,
Since childhood I have been living with my family, I am 25+ yrs old unmarried girl. For the past few years few of my family members like my mom and my sisters, are kind of taunting me because of my age and not getting married, If I made any minor mistakes in home chores. And that makes me kind of aggressive and mentally disturbed. Sometime I feel like I should stay in PGs to protect my peace of mind and sometime I feel like , Continued in comment....

These days it has become very normal to live seperately from family for work in the same city.You can keep vising your family frequently. No one willl judge you for this.Most girls have been in this situation and a lot of families are aware of this.
If you still find it uncomfortable for you then move to a different city through your work transfer or find a new job in another city. Live their for sometime. It will help you feel better. Being a girl never compromise on your emotional wellness,as it should be your first priority always.

Hello, girls 🌸

Here I come — not to preach, but to share a little hope (and maybe make you smile 😅).

I won’t claim to be an expert at choosing the right guy — because honestly, I’ve made my share of mistakes. But let me tell you a little story…

At 31, I wasn’t chasing anything — not love, not marriage. I had just bought my own 3BHK house. Decorated every corner with my own touch, filled it with quiet, peace, and me. I lived there alone, not because I had to, but because I chose to — for my own mental sanity.

Around that time, my younger sister wanted to get married. I convinced my parents that it was the right thing to support her, and not to worry about me.

And then — without planning or chasing — someone entered my life. Actually, my mom found him (classic, right?). It all unfolded like a gentle, smooth ride. We’ve now been married for 1.5 years… and truly, it feels like this could be the best thing that’s happened to me. ❤️

So what’s the takeaway?
Sometimes, walking away from the noise — even if it means leaving your parents' house — is the best gift you can give yourself.
Let your soul breathe.
Believe in your timing.
Don’t settle for wrong people, places, or choices just because you feel pressured.

If you believe in destiny — trust me — it finds its way to you.

I am not even living with family but I m still facing the same issue. I am 30+ not married. They pass the trauma in daily morning evening calls. I don't understand why marriage is so important for them. I met with some matches but didn't find them suitable. We are pure vegetarians, non smoker , non drinker. But finding a vegetarian and non-smoker match nowadays is difficult. I hv told my family I can't compromise on this. All day they taunt me on my looks my age. I am not able to perform well at the workplace due to this stress. I hope someday they see me as a human rather than a beauty queen. I want peace. I am working on myself, learning about people, about technology, reading about the world, working out and trying to become a better person. Hope this too shall pass.

I am in the same boat. I am 30! Will be turning 31 by this july! Even I know my age is getting increase but can't help. I am not getting man as per my expectations and those are not so high, just must be vegetarian, non drinker and non smoker which I can't compromise and definitely package should be higher than me, even I am fine with 1lakh more package than me but I am not getting single guy! I am brahmin and now my parents are like we are fine for intercaste marriage too. But things doesn't go the way we want. Now I am living peacefully and frankly I don't pay attention on topic of getting married, if it's written in destiny it will be. Just doing my work, increasing my salary and designation and living peacefully:)

In the end it's not about what others think of you, it's about you having your peace. Tell your family about how you are feeling politely and if they still don't understand and make you feel bad about it, it's better for you to shift to another place.

Continued..
In Dec 2024 my Father along with my 2 brothers, cheated with me. They took my signatures on my adhar card and used it for the property division. It is kind of NOC from my side that I am willingly giving my share to my brothers, which I wasn't aware of.

This incident has turned out to be a very big trauma for me. It's been 6 months, since they haven't talked to me. My problem is not the property share, my problem is they could have told me clearly. If I would have objected, then I was wrong. But they cheated with me.

I am from a small village and first engineer from there. No doubt my parents are the only one due to whom I was able to study. But I wasn't expecting this kind of cheating. And let me clear 1 more thing, I was very thrifty till the time I was taking help from my parents. For example my hostel fee was 3400/month and I was taking 3600/month. Just 200 for my other expenses other than hostel fee. I got selected in fee waiver scheme in college, so my fee was also 20k per year, including everything.

I am in job for last 8+ years. I was helping my younger brother financially in his education for 2 years when I started my job. I haven't taken or got a single thread in the name of clothes from my parents. I didn't have this kind of complains earlier, but realized after the incident. When I was going home, was spending lot out of my emotions.

The same brother whom I helped in his education, abuses me badly. The person who will hear, blood will come out of his/her ears. Why he abuses, because I am unmarried. I helped all the members (Father, Mother, Brothers, Wives of both brothers) of my family everytime, but no care cared about me. I am left alone with my griefs and pains.

Now I have low BP issues, because I am in trauma from Dec 2024.
Sorry for writing this much!!

What I think is, this society will be patriarchal only. I don't have expectations from anyone now. Just living this life and talking to God. Till now there is a small hope, even after having no hope, that 1 day my family will understand me.

Are you doing WFH?

Hello Girls,

I am also 32. Have read all the comments and feeling really sad.
My family is behind me to get married since I was in 12th class. Again tried in my 1st year of college. In my 3rd year, they wanted me get married to a guy who was 11 years elder to me. He was an MCA guy and have been in job for 7 years at that time. This whole discussion was going for a whole year, even after I denied them multiple times. At last my own family wasn't ready for this relation, because they got to know that the guy's gotra was lower than our gotra.
What is this?? How come you weren't able to know the gotra, before you started the whole discussion?? I was really struggling at that time for a single penny. I was in search of a job after my graduation and getting so many rejections.

In 2016 they fixed my marriage to a guy who was in his 2nd year of graduation and I was already a graduate. Boy's family was greedy, the guy was having bad habits. I had to really work hard for almost 3 years to stop the marriage.

They have tried hard to get me married to any guy, they have been informed by my relatives. Again in 2021 they forced me to talk to a guy, he was working in IT firm (I am also in IT). On their sayings I just had a casual intro call with him. The guy cleared that, his family already informed my family that this relation can't be established, because his grandma is also from the same place from where my Mom belongs to. Even my Mom calls her grandma as Bua. I was really irritated with my family. They don't clear the things and tell me to come in battle ground.

And sometimes I feel like It's not good to suddenly leave the family. What others (relatives and neighbours) will think of us ? Need your help please guide me in this situation 🥺

R u not going office if u r going office howz you manage I m also in same boat very stressed

No, I work in shifts. So exempted from going office