Hi dads, I’m a dad to be in philly, due date is in 9 days, wife’s dr told her today to be prepared for me to not be allowed in the room for the birth of my first, feeling heartbroken

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OP - I’m a dad of 3. I feel you. I can’t imagine not having been there. That said, it won’t define your relationship with your wife or your kid. You’ll persevere and be awesome.

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Hi dads, thank you for the reassuring messages, in the end I was able to experience this miracle in person with my wife, we welcomed our new daughter, Eliana, on Friday, she arrived perfectly on time, just as punctual as her dad ☺️

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Many congratulations!! We had our daughter last week, it’s an amazing feeling.
Good luck with everything.

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OP - i work in hospital administration now and we also have put in place a no visitor policy (pretty much all hospitals have). I’m sorry that this is happening to you, I hope you and others know how hard it is to make these decisions. We try to care for our communities and in doing so for the larger populations things like this happen. It breaks our heart as well that people do not have visitors in what maybe their scariest experience.

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Dad of 4 here, gut wrenching scenario. Perhaps, asking the doctor or seek hospital exception to policy if you conduct (and pay? if you must*) the same sterilization process as they and nurses do, if you’d be allowed to be in delivery room. Be tested and self-quarantined days leading up?

There must be a way. Worst case scenario... bedside gipad on a tripod.

Last suggestion, (and I recommend this rona or no rona) HIRE A DOULA, a good one will already have their ability to be in attendance, they’re not a “visitor” and are known by all the docs/nurses and staff.

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This is really good advice. Thanks D2

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My Sister In Law is in the same position. We are in Western PA. She is due to induce on Sunday. We have pulled some strings so he can be there, but it required a large donation from an in law. Only thing I can suggest is contact the doctor and see if you can come up with a plan to prove you are not carrying the virus

P1 - I’d guess a busy L&D ward admits 5-10 patients an hour (my observation only). That’s a full time gig front of house to take swabs and share results and full time gig back of house to process test kits. Test kits btw which no one has. Those people and those tests need to be in triage and critics care. Period.

Does it suck? Tremendously. Is it absolutely necessary? Probably.

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OP, it will all be ok. Yes it is unfortunate these things are happening.

My sister-in-law just given birth in philly a week ago. Her husband was able go in but can’t come out until they are discharged. But that was a week ago.

Best of luck to you.

Feeling for you OP. My wife and I are due with our second in May. My wife is terrified of this scenario. We are going to talk to our doctor about other options (e.g., switching doctors last minute if there’s a hospital further away allowing significant others). If you know anyone in the hospital who could make an exception maybe try that route too. Good luck to you guys

Ask if someone can FaceTime with you or setup a laptop so you can at least watch. I think that's a fair ask...

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