So my GF went to the gynecologist yesterday and they told her she was infertile, there go my chances of having one more baby. I also don't want to leave her because of that I believe that would be a dick move of me. What should I do?

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Adopt. There are plenty of kids who need second chances in life.

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It isn't that easy. It took my brother and his wife years to adopt an infant.

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You’re not married yet. You have options. You have to determine if your love is enough to outweigh your desire for biological children and the possibility of resentment towards her years down the line, which would not be fair either. Only you can answer that.

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The most educated and wise response I have seen. Thank You!!!

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is adoption out of the question? the whole “need to keep my bloodline going” thing is pretty caveman, no?

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I love the response! Thank you!

"Infertile" means she cannot conceive, it does not mean she cannot gestate a baby. Have you discussed IVF at all?

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You'd leave her solely bc you couldn't have a kid with her? What if you ended up infertile? Would you expect her to leave you?

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Attorney 1 coming in the drama smh

“One more baby”? Do you already have a kid, and is it with your current GF?

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Lol idk iv had this app for like a year haha - just write more everywhere. Theres tons if crazy ass posts.

If you're asking this question, just leave.

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Can adopt, use a surrogate, number of options

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Pregnancy is not necessarily a pleasant experience for everyone and not everyone describes their pregnancy it in the way you outlined above. Your breakfast in bed, belly rubbing expectations may not have been met even if she was able have your biological child as she might have been miserable the entire time. The blissful pregnancy experience you described may not happen even if you leave her and have a biological child with someone else.

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If you really loved someone, you would love them despite the fact that they can’t procreate. If that’s really a dealbreaker for you, maybe you should take a deep look at yourself and wonder why you think you’re so great that you NEED to pass on your genes again. Just a thought.

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A1 no trust me I have wonderful relationship with my son and trust me he loves being with me and his mother knows that.

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Look into adoption but first give her time to process everything. Good luck to you both

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Thank you, honestly.

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Leave!

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What should you do? Just dump her brah. The fact you’re asking what to do is just evidence. If you don’t want to 100% be with her no matter what then she’s not the one.

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Considering you already have kids, youre actually considering leaving her over this?

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There is many types of infertility and most can be worked around. Do you know what specifically is the issue?

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If you love her I’d say stay and figure out how to adopt. If it’s going to be a source of long term resentment or pain- break it.

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I thought I was infertile due to some sexual abuse as a young woman. I told my husband and most boyfriends that I felt may be long term, and not one of them turned me down and said, there are other options. I always hated myself for the risk of not being able to have a biological by the book child, but Surprise! I have a two year old now. I had more complications than I wished, including a D&C after giving birth and an emergency hospital transfer after that, but hey. We wanted, prayed, tried, and hoped and I had one. I may not be able to have another, but she’s all I could want for.

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Also I’m sure there is more to the story. To be diagnosed as infertile there has to be tests, trial and error for more than a year, etc, unless she is going through menopause. let us know OP. There may be hope still.

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Wish I had your gf, no condom & no babies - the dream

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If having another biological child is a must to you, then I don’t think anyone can tell you otherwise. Evaluate your relationship, your life goal and your value, and determine the right move for YOU.

Having said that, it does seem you like you fantasize pregnancy. Do you want to experience the pregnancy? Or do you want a child? Did you see the post from earlier this week about the evil pregnant wife?

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