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If he’s seeing her causally then I don’t think it matters. I feel like him saying he’s cheating, even just by going for coffee or something, and also saying she’s casual is a big contradiction. A month is also not long enough to really be the “other woman” when you dated for 3.5 years. Don’t worry about it. Meet for coffee. Even as a woman, I would definitely have been dating around by now if I ended a relationship in January.

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