How do you all manage your sexual desires? I haven't had penetrative sexual experience in my life and day by day I'm kinda getting frustrated/tired with it. Has anyone ever been in such a situation? How did you find peace with it? TIA 🙏🏻
- average looking short man in his early 30s!

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Not sure if you’re religious. I’m speaking as a male and Christian who is also in the same boat. I’ve focused on cultivating my relationships (family, friends, coworkers etc). I pursue activities I enjoy doing and challenge myself to go to events that are new to me. I focus on living my life to the fullest possible. I always say that you can die from a lack of water and food but not from a lack of sex.

I used to think I would get married by 35 but that did not happen. I was angry and frustrated it took a lot of time to change my mindset. I am reminded of the verse that man does not live by bread alone but by every word that comes from God. Sex is good but even that is not the ultimate goal. A book that has helped me a lot to put things in perspective is Richard Foster’s Money, Sex and Power. I don’t want to be single but this is the lot I have in life, I strive to be the best man I can be and live the life I want to live. I want to enjoy it as much as I can.

If you’re not Christian and you disagree with the above it’s all cool I don’t expect you to follow Christian morality just sharing my experience. I believe sex is meant for relationships with someone you want to be with. A relationship is more than the sex act, it’s having coffee with your partner, traveling together etc. Getting to know your partner intimately and vice versa. I don’t hold to the purity culture that has done more harm than good.

Don’t be hard on yourself give yourself some grace it’s a hard world out there. It may be hard to find love right now but pursue your interests you may find your partner if not at least you lived your life to the fullest. Good luck to you.

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1) be hot. 2) be average looks. 3) don’t be ugly. 4) be rich. 5) be rich enough. 6) don’t be poor. 7) be hung and know how use it. 8) use the internet. What’s your number?

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Working through it currently. It’s been 5+ years currently. Found some ladies on here for some fun but that faded. Hard to meet people out now.

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Hire a sex worker. There’s no shame in it.

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As a guy, yeah, a tough one. I myself am on about a 3-yr dryspell. I've never done the sex worker thing, I'm not into porn, and I don't have a regular schedule to, uh, take care of things myself. Thankfully, bring in my mid-40s I feel like nature has decreased my T and drive so I've got that going for me lol

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