How do you deal with a passive aggressive team, work culture, and/or person?

Seems like an appropriate question for a MN bowl. 🤪

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I'm a transplant and this is one of the most difficult parts of living here. If you are a manager it is your job to model behavior that you want from your team. Unfortunately, my most recent manager was extremely passive-aggressive and my direct communication style put me at with both them and the rest of my team that followed their lead. It was an environment where my direct style negatively impacted my career growth and led to some passive and some very direct retaliation from leadership.

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Leave Minnesota. As a transplant from the Northeast I really hate the communication style here. You can't change this place.

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I just had to deal with this at a place called hope ave community center

I was a team leader and did all the training

And one of the guys who I trained since he know some one of some one is was made the manger and now over see everyone

I turn my keys in and said for get this

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