I feel like I am starting to fall apart with this wfh. I love my kids (4 under 7) so much but being around them constantly has started to get to me. I’m short tempered and irritable. I’m beyond appreciative to have this time with my family but I’m afraid it’s almost too much of a good thing. I’m writing hoping that I’m not an anomalous monster TBH.

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It’s a struggle for sure, but the onus of this is on you as a father. You have to work on getting to a place where you are by default patient and kind, where being short-tempered or irritable isn’t even an option. It’s hard, but it does get easier with practice.
- Practically, I’ve found things like meditating/praying daily, taking some mandatory time to think before reacting (literally counting to 20 in situations) to be helpful.

For me, the inspiration and drive to do this is that I’m trying to break the cycle of having a short-tempered father. I don’t want to be that type of father to my children. So I work hard on being the kind father that they deserve and a good role model to them.

You can do it! 👍🏼

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I just brought it up by saying I know we seem to be more irritated with each other over the last few weeks and I think it’s because my annoying habits are worse because we are always together and same for your annoying habits. We want normally be together this much so I think we need to realize what is going on and try be patient and maybe find more me time for the both of us.

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