I feel like I’m constantly obsessing over my performance. This is causing me to lose all sense of boundaries and work way later than I should. How did you come to the conclusion that “it’s just a job”, and stop basing your self-worth on your performance? 😥

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The moment I knew I was disposable.

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Still figuring it out. I will say that the long hours affect my performance. I’m at the time where I am burning out and just not as efficient. Work with people who aren’t insane

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The conclusion comes pretty quick and easy when you get royally fucked by your company for the first time.

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That first time comes at you fast... by the third or fourth time it just becomes expected

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Oh I can answer this. Ask yourself if you’d appreciate what you are doing when your are say 70 years old. AFAIK no one felt great because they put in 80 hours a week. (I know Elon love putting in 80 hours but he is not seventy yet).

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If you die tomorrow, you’re going to regret not enjoying time with family and friends.

If you got a call that your mom/dad/close friend passed unexpectedly, you’re going to regret not spending time with them.

Remember that.

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I just remind myself that even though I need the job, the job doesn’t need me. I work hard to impress people to keep my spot, but really, at the end of the day, I’m just a number to the company. I may be an important part of my project teams, but in the larger picture I’m just an item number on a payroll sheet. I never realized this at my former firm and sacrificed a lot to be a team player and put the company first- it was never appreciated and in the end I really judged myself on the way I prioritized them over myself. Never making that mistake again. Have confidence in your abilities! Trust yourself!

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Thank you, this response means the most to me.

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Priorities, family, health.

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Never been a problem... find something outside of work to be passionate about, that escape and outlet helps me to find something to feel good about that ain’t work

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Found many things, but never have the time to do them anymore

I realized that work is just work after realizing that it doesn’t complete me. It’s just a vehicle, a nice wine that I enjoy at times, that affords me opportunities to do the things I love.

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I prioritize my day to be done by 10 pm no matter what. This forced me to prioritize what is absolutely important. PS: sad that me setting “boundaries” is work stopping at 10 pm. 🤦‍♀️

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I’ve done the same with 11:00 PM which isn’t really setting boundaries.

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Seeing colleagues basically QWOP to the finish line and get the same performance evaluation. Establishing boundaries, not being the zombie who is up late working every night, is the secret to success.

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I worked late hours in few projects but I will always have the check if I am learning something new. I am more worried if I am not learning something new once in a while than about performance. I know building a strong foundation and learning will give you better chance in the market.

This... sounds like a BCG associate haha. I was in your shoes not too long ago. I think obsessing over my performance paid off for me - I was young and learned a lot because of it. Eventually though once you make it out of bcg it would be great to experience all that life has to offer!

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