I hate speaking about my personal life at work but it seems everyone wants to be so involved. Am I the weird one?

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I hate it too. I just answer politely and make them think they know more about me than they do.

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They are probably just trying to be friendly and not come across as cold, etc.

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It’s a byproduct of people not having social lives. Work becomes socialization and the lines of professionalism become blurred. I refuse to speak about my personal life lest anything be used against me.

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Thank you for saying this. Work is work, not a playground or a social club and I wish more people understood this 🤦‍♀️

I am in house on a small legal team so most of my colleagues are not lawyers, and it’s my job to both support them and protect the company from them simultaneously. I do talk about my kids and vacation and such and other life events, but I am also very cautious about what I say and how much I tell them. I am also very careful about what I put in writing over Teams or email - some of them put way too much in writing and I keep it short and sweet and act like everything is discoverable either to my boss/the company or in an investigation.

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Yes. They’ll take it that you don’t like them. You don’t have to tell them the truth, just keep track of any falsehoods…

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There’s a way to join these discussions without giving too much away.

Most people aren’t actually trying to make friends, they just want to be nice and engaged. I’m a pretty socialable person and I do think it helps me frame my interactions when I know a bit about you personally. I don’t need to know too much but it’s a way to bond and build relationships, even in a work environment.

Tell me about your dog, where you like to grab dinner, one of your hobbies. I don’t care what it is, just make you seem like a real person not another cog in the machine.

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Interesting. I’m the totally opposite. I’m constantly talking about my personal life. Even about being in AA.

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A1 my reason is that i dont trust colleagues the way I trust friends from other chapters in my life

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Yes.

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