I know that HR & leaders are obligated to investigate when sexual harassment is reported, but when a female employee, especially on their way out, tells you about a scenario and they insist that they don’t want the issue to be investigated and don’t want the can of worms to open and potentially lead back to them, how do you navigate that? I sometimes feel uncomfortable forcing a victim into a situation they asked to not be in..

likehelpful
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

I’m not in HR but have led teams and seen some things so take it for what it’s worth. I’d still investigate for two primary reasons. Documentation. This could be the only time, the first time, or one of many teams this person has harassed someone. You need to have documentation should this come up again or has already happened to others and needs to be addressed. The second is that I’ve seen situations where someone was harassed or worse and starting having PTSD basically that impacted their ability to work. This person continued to work at the company but when she tried to get accommodations it was a no go. Ultimately her manager and HR partner were dismissed because they knew of it and did nothing even though the employee asked them not to. You just don’t know what the future holds. These may seem like unlikely scenarios but not an impossibility.

likehelpful

If you work in HR I would consider even informal conversation as reporting and you’re required to escalate

likehelpful

To put a finer point on it - there is no such thing as an informal conversation about workplace sexual harassment with a HR team member.

likehelpful

If it was reported to you directly from the employee and via the appropriate reporting channels, then you are obligated to investigate they didn’t want investigated. They should not have reported it point-blank. If it was not reported via the appropriate reporting channels that require you to investigate, then I would say that’s different. It depends on what the appropriate & required reporting channels are.

like

This is an old example and it was escalated because I did ultimately report it up the chain. But I do agree with not only being held liable but the potential of it happening again at the expense of someone else.

In our training, we were taught that any report must be investigated to protect the company, not the victim. My instinct is always to protect the victim, so I had to learn to think differently, though I hate it. As an HR person, you have a double responsibility. I would let your boss know, at minimum.

likehelpful

This is exactly what I did. I shared it up, but yes it’s definitely a moral challenge at times.

like

If you don’t want it to be investigated, why are you reporting it? If you report it, you can assume it will definitely be investigated.

Related Posts

What are good ways to cold connect/reach out/ schedule a call with lawyers practicing in an area of your interest? I recently connected on LinkedIn with a lawyer I’m really interested talking to but I am unsure on how to ask for some time to talk.

like

There is a partner that, without fail, calls on Fridays after 6pm anytime I am staffed with him. It’s extremely frustrating since his calls are usually non-urgent and I make it a point to check in early in the day to address anything. Any advice?

like

I feel like so much of the media discussion about people NOT going back to work is centered on POC. I have white coworkers just as frustrated. Is this just another example of how POC are having the authentic conversation no one else is willing to have?

like

I put in a lot of effort to show my client properties that fit their requirements, but they ended up working with a different agent just because they wandered across an open house. I'm so frustrated right now. Has anyone else experienced this?

like

Just had a very uncomfortable conversation with a partner. I have some time off booked to go to my brother’s wedding (I’m the best man). We were chatting and I mentioned that my brother’s future husband is so nice and really a great guy, and we already consider him a member of our family. Partner’s tone immediately shifts and as we’re ending the call he says, “Okay, enjoy the time with your family at the civil ceremony.” Like… girl you live in California, you cannot be this backward.

like

I only have white shirts....I wear clean shirt every day to office, will people think I never do my laundry?

likefunny

Why shoes do you wear for work? That are Comfy & look good

like

I teach freshmen who haven't met the only other single teacher in my department. Today, I asked one of them to take something to him and immediately kids started talking about how we were dating. Ugh.

like

Wife sent me unsolicited nudes while I was at work today (I know, she's a keeper) but my director was standing behind me when i opened the text. Talk about awkward.

like

There’s no reason you have to put up with a job you hate. I spent many years working in a toxic environment with a boss who gossiped and lead through fear. He wasn’t really much of a leader but basically a foreman. And he could make my existence miserable. I admit that it wasn’t easy to find another job but the bottom line is: trust your guts. If you feel something is wrong it’s because it probably is. Don’t second guess yourself. Look for options and and fight for your mental health.

likeupliftingsmart

Ways to overcome fear of public speaking? At times I stutter when I introduce myself and am sick of it

like

I live in downtown Seattle and a client just closed an email to me with “Hope you’re having a great weekend!” Um, what?

like

Got braids. You'd think I literally got a face transplant from how shook my coworkers are. I would say over 10 people have stopped me to ask about them or comment on them and I've been at work for maybe 2 1/2 hours. It's all been positive, but am I wrong for still finding it annoying? They don't lose their minds when Sarah gets bangs or whatever so I wish they could keep that same energy.

like

A coworker at non-work HH said something antisemtic to me. Do I talk to him about it or should I tell my manager and HR? I'm nervous about retaliation because I've experienced it before when reporting something to HR.

How do you let a director know it’s really not professional to keep re-scheduling the meeting? This is the 4th time a new time is proposed. And it’s one of my pet peeves.

likefunny

Does anyone give a small gift to your boss? Token so something like a book he might like etc

like

So...what do you do when you see that a former boss who you know got reprimanded at work for saying racist shit (he still got promoted to an even higher position after) post a black square on Instagram? Do you call him out?

like

Just discovering RSD after being diagnosed as an adult. I feel like SO MUCH of my life has been impacted by this and I just never had a name for it. At work if someone gives me negative or constructive feedback it can feel like a punch in the chest even if I know it's not personal. Makes romantic relationships so hard too. What do you do to handle it especially at work?

like

As a manager, how do you expect your employee to deal with a diffcult customer?

like

I’m a third year litigator. The partner of my firm just started letting me go do trials, hearings, and depos by myself about 7 months ago. A judge I’ve only briefly appeared in front of 4 times has called my boss to compliment my work (they’ve known each other for years and go to the same gym, but my boss never appears in his court). Judge has asked me to go to lunch to “discuss” something, but what could it be? It’s making me nervous. What could it be about?

like

More Posts

Freelancers be like

Post Photo
likefunny

Bad management on my project is making me constantly miserable. Discussions have not worked, and I keep getting blocked when trying to roll off. Hoping there's a light at the end of the tunnel.

like

Howdy…I need a sanity check! As part of my previous role, I reported security non-compliance and gross security misrepresentations. For my valiant efforts I was laid off (despite being a protected whistleblower) and my reports were buried. Everything I did was in line with my responsibilities. I was extremely concerned that systems housing personal credit data on all US consumers were not adequately protected. I essentially risked my job to protect data and I’m not sure if it mattered.

Who thinks I'm a handsome boy?

Post Photo
likeuplifting

I think I need Ex bankers as friend and accountants. I need people who we can discuss deals in the swift world with from time to time. I need people with great ideas in my life

funny

How would you rank CHWTIA?

My ranking:

1. Accenture
2. IBM
3. TCS
4. HCL
5. Wipro
6. Cognizant

What would be your ranking?

like

Hi all,

I am holding below offers, but need to understand how variable is payed in these companies.

Also, which will be better to join if I am looking for some offshore opportunities.

Wipro - 23LPA with 10% var - Team Lead
Mindtree - 22LPA with 12%var - Module Lead

YOE- 5.5yrs

like

Has anyone experienced delay in getting physical copy of the H-1B approval notice? The USCIS portal says - the case has been approved. Is it safe to join new firm based on approval notification?

like

Hi Fishes, can anyone refer me for data analytics profile.

like

After getting kicked out of McK late last year, this gives me schadenfreude 🤣

Post Photo
likefunny

Hey guys. I have an interview with EY Parthenon M&A Finance coming up. My recruiter said it will be an interview to assess my M&A/F&A Skills. Is that just a long winded way to say a case interview? Also does anyone have any tips on the interview process? Financial analyst here with experience in ERP implementation and working for the consulting line of business for my current company. EY EY-Parthenon

like

Anyone have any thoughts on Portiviti?

like

I am a career changer on mo 4 of a 6 mo sourcer/researcher contract that I’m not sure will be renewed due to team re-organizing. I have 5 YOE basically in an HR generalist role at a company that didn’t have an official HR function, building systems from the ground up. I also have my SHRM-CP. I am looking for a perm, remote HR generalist or program manager position and getting no traction despite a well-reviewed resume. What do I do? Should I go to grad school?

like

Asking from nagarrians.... Have you ever asked HR to increase project commitment bonus/ allocation? If yes, then did they agree and how much?
You can DM if you are not comfortable sharing it here.
I am working in a high demand project and I feel that project commitment is way to low

like

Alvarez & Marsal Want to apply for the PEPI Sr Associate position MI&CO. I have 5 YOE experience in Deloitte’s M&A practice (integration and carve outs). I’m currently based in Toronto but happy to relocate. Anyone up to have a chat and refer me? Alvarez & Marsal

Hello everyone, I am looking for referrals. Please share your email Id in comments if you can refer me. I am on notice period and my LWD is in first week of December!!

like
like

Will I get job if i have 3 years of career gap initially due to medical reasons
After that i have 6 years of experience

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal